#notletsplayers

like i’m about as binary masc presentation as you can get, but more because i don’t want the hassle that’s associated with presenting otherwise than because i believe in it (sidenote: beards make a great sensory fidget toy)

but i didn’t have hugely significant dysphoria, so i guess that makes me ‘tucute’

and when you point that out to them they’re just like ‘oh no we don’t mean you, we just mean the ones who wear dresses’

IMO, as a trans guy, that’s not necessarily transphobic because you’re not ruling out all trans women - you’re just not comfortable with having sex with someone with a certain kind of genitalia, which is fine. And you’re not making assumptions about what genitalia a trans person might have.

Having said that, your sexual behaviour & your sexuality may not be entirely the same thing. I’m not going to label you, but you might want to consider whether or not you can be attracted to trans men and non-binary people, and whether or not you’re attracted to trans women w/ penises (you just may not want to engage in sexual behaviour with them as you may be penis averse?).

Also you can date someone and not have sex with them, or if you want to have sex you can work around the genitalia issue (a lot of the time trans people have issues with their genitalia or want to have sex differently than a cis person would so it can be worth exploring if you like someone).

It’s something for you to think about - but no, genital preference or aversion is not, in itself, transphobic and I think the discussions around this sort of gets misinterpreted.

What IS transphobic is the following:

1) Assuming trans people’s genitalia.

2) Ruling out dating trans people as a WHOLE, not as a singular. 

- For example, “I don’t date trans people because I’m not attracted to them” is a transphobic statement.

- “I don’t want to date Greg because I’m not attracted to him.” is not a transphobic statement, even if Greg happens to be a trans person.

In the video he retweeted, the perpetrator isn't even a fucking Muslim. Check dutch media. Fake news.

The account he just retweeted three times is that of the deputy leader of Britain First who has been charged for verbally attacking a woman (in front of her kids, for being Muslim).

Britain First is a tiny, largely ignored, deeply hateful and racist group who tweet videos of brown people celebrating winning cricket matches with captions implying they're cheering terrorism (fake news).

The only member of parliament murdered in Britain since the height of the IRA troubles of the 80s, was MP Jo Cox who in 2016 was shot and stabbed by a supporter of Britain First, shouting "Britain First".

As useless as this feels to write, the United States President sets the tone, not just in the US, but his sentiment is heard and echoes across the globe. He is emboldening bigots everywhere. This tacit approval, this promotion of people preying on legitimate fears and concerns is not ok. It cannot become the new normal.

By all means have grown-up conversations about the reality of the present day, about integration, rate of migration, radicalisation, isolation etc,

i’ve seen this too, sadly more in radfem circles though? i have unfortunately seen this sometimes used to imply that trans people can choose not to transition or to imply that transitioning is the ‘easy way out’

to answer your question, gender dysphoria as a diagnosis is specifically about trans people (you do not have to have gender dysphoria to be trans, but medically you do need to be trans to have gender dysphoria)

but i guess it gets murkier when we’re coming outside of diagnosis criteria and just talking about people’s experiences