#nightmare system

And it’s like because I have this disorder, I have to take every part of my life completely seriously. Why is talking about the good parts of my life so wrong ? Talking about a nice interaction between alters, decorating social media platforms with cute little emojis, dressing up in fun and expressive ways, are all somehow wrong because I have this disorder.

pwCDDs aren’t all suffering 24/7. Yes, this disorder causes immense problems and can negatively impact every single facet of our lives (and for most of us, it does). But people with CDDs have good days too. We should be celebrating these good days, the wins we have which may seem small to those who don’t suffer from this disorder, but are huge to us. Not tearing each other down for “glorifying” our disorder by simply sharing our positive experiences.

Seeing someone else’s positivity doesn’t invalidate your suffering, and doesn’t mean that person isn’t suffering too. Let us be happy when we can be.

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Girly pop, it’s not for you. I don’t do sign offs for you to know who wrote the message, I do it so we know who wrote the message. If I get a notification that someone replied to a comment I left, or a post I made, and I have no memory of making that post, I can instantly know if it’s just my bad memory, or if it’s because another alter wrote it. On top of that, if another alter wrote it, and it’s a problematic post/comment, we can discuss it with the alter who wrote it.

So again, it’s not for you babes

If you feel like you aren’t suffering enough, I promise you, there is something that you aren’t considering as suffering. Perhaps it’s become so normal to you, you don’t even view it as a disruption to your life anymore. When in reality, most people don’t deal with the things we deal with.

Your suffering is valid.

Tw: SA

And like, how do you reconcile that with people coping with trauma? I write and draw things that are suggestive of my CSA as a way to cope. Does that make me a pedo now too?

I *know* you're probably inherently excluding stuff like that, but you've painted a real broad stroke of people by dismissing it as bad as the real thing outright. I know you probably imply more nuance in your stance there, but I didn't see that anywhere.

There's so many real pedo rings on here I feel like time is better spent on that than fandom ship bullshit. Like, you talk of endos and my main beef with them is the serious endo>radID>pro para pipeline I've witnessed myself in the tags and blogs. That shit affecting minors pisses me off more than any distasteful fictional age gap ship ever will, and I don't view those as equivalent to each other, and not even remotely equivalent to the real act.

Pedophilia is not the act of sexually assaulting minors. It is the attraction to minors, regardless if one acts on it or not. I believe that if you watch/consume content of a (in this case fictional) minor, and are attracted to it, that is pedophilia.

If you are attracted to the idea of a minor and an adult together, that is a problem that needs therapy. Sexualising minors, and posting that publicly, is not ok.

Even if it’s a ‘coping mechanism’, it’s not healthy. I don’t think it makes you a pedophile, but I do think it is morally and ethically wrong to post this stuff publicly. Please seek therapy or professional help if you are struggling with this. Therapy is not negative, everyone needs help here and again, especially if you’ve gone through trauma.

So let me make this clear. This is my stance specifically on the idea of pedophilia and pro-shipping. If you are drawing/writing/creating content involving the sexualisation of a minor, and are attracted to the minor, or the idea of the minor being sexualised, that is pedophilia. Again, pedophilia is not always acted upon. But that does not change my mind in that, regardless if you hurt a real person, you need to seek help.

Not to mention, I reserve the right to judge whatever a person posts. If you are publicly making content of incest, I will judge you. If you are publicly making content involving a sexual relationship between a minor and an adult (and encouraging it), I will judge you. If you are publicly making content romanticising abuse, I will judge you. It being a coping mechanism doesn’t suddenly make that ethical, if you are posting it publicly. People seem to think they can post whatever they want on here, and that all content/ideas are equally deserving of respect. Not every idea is valid, and something isn’t ethical just because it’s not illegal.

I’m trying to be as careful with my wording as I can be so there’s no misunderstanding on where I stand. I hope this clears things up and that I’ve addressed everything.

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