What people don't understand about Harriet and Nels Oleson
Nels didn't stay because divorce wasn't normalized at the time
He stayed because he loves Harriet, he stayed because he doesn't regret marrying her
They fight, they argue, and they don't agree with each other, that's not because they don't love each other, that's because they are different people with different personalities
He complains, she complains, that's not a lack of love, that's what marriages look like when the honeymoon phase is over
That phase doesn't last eternity, the butterflies in your stomach don't live forever, after that phase comes comfortability and routine, and come arguments because when you live years with someone you don't agree with, you see the flaws, you don't like the flaws, and you disagree with them, that's how it will always work
After you marry someone you'll see the flaws and you won't like them but you'll learn to live with them because you love your partner
Nels and Harriet stayed together out of love, not out of judgment
