עַיִן הָרָע

That famous line, Abu. 🙈🙉🙊

You try to honestly explain why you think a certain way about something. You are being NEUTRAL (seems something that people can't even comprehend).

When immediately someone lashes out at you claiming something that you didn't intend.

They immediately assume the worse. But it's an honest mistake. You're open to other viewpoints. You weren't being at all negative in any way. You are simply trying to understand. You expressed an opinion and someone believes you meant something awful by it. Why do people always want to assume the worst. I stayed neutral because I am really open to wanting to know both sides of the conversation. Is this why this happens?

I know someone in one of my old classes. He expressed his dislike for something pretty controversial. He said he doesn't hate it. But he personally just does not approve of it. He didn't go around hating on people for a different viewpoint.

Can we not make mistakes about anything and instead of attacking... Take a step back. And try to see where they're coming from even it is not necessarily good?

I already know why. Because people project themselves onto others. So this person who commented, essentially expressed her thoughts. And I don't even want to know what else she thinks. Because it goes against the whole point being made. And she's a terf. I don't know what that means. But isn't that well... something negative against a group of people? The post also seemed to be about shaming men to a certain degree. Person claimed I was victim-blaming. Wtf? I apologized for expressing my opinion. I was trying to see from that perspective. That my words were ignorant and not appropriate. But really it's really JUST an OPINION.

I want to be educated about things rather than be belittled. Mistakes are how we learn.

Why It’s Important To Release Negative Assumptions When Dealing With Others

“Assumptions are the termites of relationships.” – Henry Winkler

Let’s say you’re dating someone new and have plans to meet up. Next thing you know, you receive a text from them saying that they can’t make it to the date. In that moment, do you assume that they’re are making excuses, or don’t want to hang out with you? Or, let’s say one of your friends ‘seems’ like they’ve been avoiding you. Do…

I am not a slut - no matter what you think of me. Talking to someone doesn't mean I slept with them. Meeting someone doesn't mean I'd get in to bed with them. Meeting someone else doesn't mean I don't care about you anymore or I care less about you. 

I have close friends who are men - doesn't mean I am romantically involved with each one of them. Some of them do care about the little details in my life. For me, they're my big brothers. 

I don't have lots of friends. I care about the few who made it to my friends list. I talk to some a lot. I talk to some once in a few months. What they mean to me doesn't depend on how often they keep in touch. 

Some of these men have tried to cross their limits (terrible, I know!!) - I know enough to distance them/stop talking to them. 

I neglected all my friends when I was in my previous relationship. When that broke up, I was alone and realized the . I never want to be in a place like that again. And, turns out, it's unhealthy too! 

Stop thinking negatively -> it comes from Shaytan. So it's NEVER true.