#neck beard

Fact and a lot of them are on Tumblr & Reddit.

If you want to complain about the messaging of media, then at least engage with the actual message and not minor tweaks to character design and pronouns.

I fucking hate those so called “incels”.  Here’s why. I also am shy and awkward around women. I also get depressed and disheartened at times by my lack of success in finding the monogamous relationship I so passionately desire. I also feel the sting of rejection via OLD, and it really does fucking hurt. There have been plenty of times where I wrote to a woman on Match or POF with an attempt to be witty and relevant to her profile, only to be totally ignored...or ghosted after one or two text exchanges. No one likes rejection. 

That being said, I am nothing like those douches. Aside from being married for over 10 years and having multiple relationships, their logic is so incredibly flawed and self serving. I joined a sub-reddit group once called “where are all the good men” thinking it was going to be busting the chops of oblivious, totally un-self aware entitled women with their long list of demands and no mention of what they bring to the table other than being a hot chick. I quickly learned that it was SO much worse than that. I was appalled by the attitude of these assholes. I am a divorced father who loves his children more than anything. I am perfectly aware that I am just as much of a single parent as a mother who is looking for the same thing I am: Love, trust, laughter, etc. I actually can only see myself falling for a single mom, as I have my boys 50% of the time and I would need someone who understands that when I’m with them, they are my priority.  I got literally sick to my stomach after a while when I would read the snarky responses to regular single moms looking to date. It was far more than just a bunch of neckbeards thinking they were entitled to sex.  It was fucking psychopaths disparaging children, calling them “little shits” or “crouch droppings” along with making sickening statements about how single mothers were “used up” and the constant mantra of them only dating “Chads” all throughout their 20s and  only now  do they want a “good man” (Like you?!?!  Dude, look in the fucking mirror).  I do understand to an extent their bitterness.  I also was pretty much soundly rejected all throughout my 20s. I tried OLD and talking to women I met through mutual friends. I lived with my folks up until I was 26 and never had a good paying job. Now, I don’t actually know if that was the main reason I was usually rejected but I always suspected it. I moved out but still had no luck. Here’s the thing though, I never held a grudge against any of them.  Everyone is entitled to date who they please. But, to carry on this grudge for decades and act like you’re some prize now?  No. That’s just idiotic. 

I noticed a lot of the men were around my age (early 40s) and they would say thew will only date women in their 20s.  Say whaaa?!  First of all, I don’t particularly want to date a woman in her 20s, as I don’t want to play bullshit games, and you run the risk of that...plus, hello!? I’m 44, have a balding spot, graying hair, divorced with 2 kids.  Childless or not, what woman in her 20s would be seeking a dude like me anyway? 

Oh...and they ruined being a nice guy.  They used that as a self description to a point where it’s now almost synonymous with being an entitled misogynistic piece of crap who thinks doing small favors or just not assaulting someone makes them special. Look, I have always considered myself to be a relatively nice guy.  However, I have never self described myself as such.  I always felt my actions would speak for themselves. Plus, my acts of kindness aren’t done for some kind of shady ulterior motive. I enjoy doing nice things because this is the kind of person I am. I also don’t do them just for a woman I’m interested in. I love finding cool things to get for my friends and family.  Things that I have a mutual interest in.