#natashya

  The thing about nursing is, you do have enforced thinking time for hours and hours and hours a day. That’s when I formulated the whole thing ... In those hours I started to decide what I was going to do, and it did kind of surprise me what my choice was. RollingStone.com - April 13, 2001 

  I understand why my mother would stand by the door and wait for me to come home. Being a mother I can see things from my mother's life that I never did before. I just adore my mother. Even more now that I am one. She handled things so well. It makes me more able to drop something and crawl under the floor and go "Gumba gumba gumba" which is what my duaghter is doing at the moment. It makes me angry when I think about the world she's coming into. I mean, there's a UN report that shows that one in every four women is being abused. To bring a daughter into that world? I've got three nieces and a daughter, so statistically.... Just because they're women. Or just becuase you're gay. Some women bond just because they hate men, they have a common enemy. But I don't think that's the answer. That's sad, but things have to change for all of us. And we are the ones who have to do it. It's us.  Attitude (UK magazine) - September 2001

  When Tash just was born, I listened a lot to the radio, to those alternative American stations. A lot of male artists came by and it struck me how many really hated women. The word bitch was used very often, you know what it's like. I had Tash in my arms and thought She's growing up in a world where man think in such a way about women. Oor (Dutch music magazine) - September 8, 2001

  It's great being a mum. I don't have time for just nonsense thinking, so crawling on the floor and playing gumba, gumba, gumba is really important, and if something's going to take me away from that, it's got to be just as important ... I'm cool with whatever she becomes, I just want her to have a good sense of self respect. Boyz (UK magazine) - September 15, 2001

  We're all out together. We don't want to be away from Natashya ... But down time means something very different to me now. Down time is crawling around on the floor with stuffed animals. But it's taught me patience - and I'm giggling now, because patience isn't something that I've been known for. The Boston Globe - September 16, 2001

  I realized you cannot put her needs and your needs first at the same time. There is no negotiating on that one. I didn't have the patience before to get baby behavior. You have to watch them every second. And it takes a lot to play blocks for five hours. Parenthood isn't for everyone. For some people, it's animals or traveling or being out on the ocean. Whatever it is, there's that thing that opens up these windows for you where everything lines up. Alternative Press - October 2001