I feel like it'd be kinda hard to convince someone who'd fully know me as I have many surface level signifiers, but I don't care for the gender stuff and have other explanations for my desires/issues. Surface level signifiers:

They ARE a family and I will stand by that with my dying breath. With all of this being said about Shanks and the new Red movie, Doflamingo is there for his kids. This little band of freaks and twisted individuals that life has kicked around to the point they may not be able to be saved, still try to save each other in their own way. Whether it's cranky-ass Gladius telling Dellinger to run away before Hakuba can attack or Doflamingo killing Baby 5's "fiances" because they're just trash men using her, these guys step up.

The awkward look of all the princesses, how they say:

“We can’t understand her. She’s from the other studio.”

And I’m sorry, they honestly thought it was funny to make fun of someone’s accent? We can understand Merida in her movie, and for Ralph Breaks the Internet, they literally had the voice actress do her voice different so she could barely be understood.

At first, I used to say it was racist. Because of the other princesses saying, she was from the other studio. Referring to how Brave is a Disney Pixar movie, how Merida was from somewhere different.

I am writing this at 3:41 am. I can’t sleep. A lot of posts are pissing me off to the point of no return. So, I’m throwing my hat into the ring.  Here is where I stand about Robert, Seb, and The Whites. First off, I hate the Whites. That doesn’t make me a horrible person. They were a sucky Home Farm family. The only good thing they did was bring Robert home and bring Lachlan to Emmerdale. Second, I hate Rebecca. I can hate Rebecca. I’m allowed to hate a fictional character. Third, I like Seb. I do. I don’t blame him for the sins of BOTH parents. He is the most innocent person in this whole story.

Now that is out of the way. This storyline has brought up three themes:

1)      Choice

2)      Need

3)      Want

Much like Aaron (I’ve talked about this in another post) Robert has fought between needs and wants. What he thinks he needs versus what he really wants. He has been acting like he needed revenge, he needed to stop the pain, and he needed to fight for his kid. This is where choice comes in. Robert has had many choices. He has made a lot of wrong ones this past year. Many that lead him down some very dark roads. However, after his wake-up call, those choices will change. He needs Seb. He needs to start over and be better. However, his choices will change those needs into wants. He wants Seb safe. He wants Seb happy. He wants to be a better parent. That means he might have to put his own needs aside. Make a choice to put Sebs safety and happiness above his own. Something I see Robert doing. It won’t be a punishment. Robert doesn’t deserve any more punishment (regardless what others think).  He will want to be a good parent. Make a choice to be a better parent and let Seb go.

So, with that said, its time for a lot of fandom to make a choice to sit back and let the story play out or let themselves be freaked out by anons who want to cause panic because they don’t want to be miserable alone. It won’t be an easy ending. It won’t be a story that ties up all loose ends. It is a soap, after all, got to leave some things open.  Instead of dwelling on the negatives as we close out a rough storyline, try to think of the positives that are coming for Robert and Aaron as individuals and together. Not only do we have a reunion and future wedding on the horizon, but we also have a lot of growth of Robert as a person. We have Liv’s storyline and how that affects Aaron and Robert.

JOSEPH TATE. I mean, this year has already kicked butt and taken names, and it's only the second week of January.

Instead of getting upset over the little details that won’t matter in a few months, let us think of the future and how we have so much to look forward to. Again, if you have to step away, please, go take a break from fandom and/or the show. No one is keeping you here. Get better. Come back. Be awesome. Find a bitch buddy. Someone that will listen to you complain without judgment.  

So, yeah. I have no freaking idea of any of what I wrote makes sense. It is now 3:55am and I’m finally getting that headache that screams to me that I need to sleep. So, yeah. To summarize.

1) The White Family BLOWS too (stop acting like they are innocent human beings. Not even close)

2) Robert doesn’t deserve to lose everything because some look at it as penance for his evil deeds.  He has lost enough. He learns from his mistakes now.

3) The baby isn’t evil. It’s a baby. It has done nothing in this storyline to deserve such scorn. (His mother has but that is a personal opinion) 

4) No matter what happens the Whites are leaving. Soon we won’t have to see them on screen or even hear their names. Let’s celebrate that fact.

5) So MUCH to look forward too! JOE TATE DRAMA! I mean…that gets me excited. 

Okay, here’s part two:

I don’t believe trans women are men trying to access women-specific spaces to abuse them.  Not a great majority, anyway.  And I don’t believe bathroom laws are going to stop sexual assaulters from going in and hurting women anyway.

I am all for gender-neutral bathrooms.

There is an awful lot of biphobia I’ve seen amongst radical feminists - and a lot of bisexuals who seem to be okay with that.  It’s what’s made me so hesitant to learn about it in the first place.

Trans women should not be excluded from feminism.

I will not call a trans man a lesbian/butch, nor will I call a trans woman a gay man.

Trans people are not “delusional,” and the only help they need is that which they get to treat their dysphoria/dysmorphia.

Addicts are mentally ill and are not necessarily at fault for their addiction or the difficulties that come with detox (radfem-gossip had a particularly nasty thread about this sometime back and as a mentally ill person...no.  Just...no.  This should not have to be a sentence I type.).

While women do face sex-based oppression in developing countries/countries with strict gender roles, it’s disingenuous to imply that trans individuals would tell them that they can “identify” out of their oppression.

Being trans is not a privilege, and to act like they’d be treated better in other countries that are misogynistic is laughable.  Trans people exist there, too, and they’re not any more “privileged” for it.

Transitioned bodies are not “mutilated.”

I am a person with a mental illness and developmental disabilities.  My gender/sex issues are NOT related.

Like ye I get the most sapphic person in history was a lesbian, but given half of the posts on sapphic yearning tag are men/cis men dni I'd like to see more unfiltered sapphic emotional love for them too.

Say..

Yearning fora boyfriend/boy wife you feel comfortable with. Comfortable leaning on like their a immovable rock that you have faith wouldn't break easily allowing you to soften up. Sharing close interests and feeling so cozy as the little spoon while you both watch your favorite show, you being half his entertainment as he makes you feel loved while being so much stronger and larger he envelops you blocking out the world and thereby any worries from you. Squeezes so strong you have no choice but to melt.

He carries you so easily it makes you feel all the more smaller and softer as if you weigh nothing. Yet him letting you do as you please to him as If your the one who could easily fold him, brings forth a confidence you've rarily felt otherwise, until he fights back playfully and wins easily.

Able to just relax as their able to work independently and can cook clean if your sick and happily do so. To rely without fear. To watch with delight how quickly he softens up once complicated genuinely with a degree of softness he didn't think he was entitled to. Letting to see him be all soft and sweet, and remember on it when you see his colder neutral stare in public as you walk hand in hand.

Progressive people bit a bit too much focus on to exact labels and definitions.

like yes, scientifically it's helpful, but let's not forget its not like increasing the number of options from 2 to 100+, its more likely expanding from the spectrum of black to white all the way to the entire hex code, tons and tons of things included like "brick red", the point is you can be anything now, only restricted by practicality/logic (like how love is love doesn't include pedophiles as children can't consent) and besides that you can be any mixture of things.

Instead of A B and C, you can just say what you are: "I'm attracted to people regardless of gender and date based personalty not looks or sex.", if your ready to say it it's hardly much slower and far clearer than labels sometimes.