#mutual touching

I really, really need to masturbate along with somebody - it doesn't need to be sex, we can just get into a call and touch ourselves while talking about different fantasies and listen to the other cum.

An invitation to peacefulness rather than to a simple passivity, the caress unfolds as an intersubjectivity act, as a communication between two, a call to an in-stasy in us and between us, and not to an ecstasy outside of us.

The caress leads each one back to the I and to the you. I give you back to yourself because you are a you for me. You remain you thanks to the you which you are for me, which you are 'to' me -- to recall the 'to' of I Love to You -- which has nothing to do with possession. Your body does not resemble an object for me, subject, and the same is true for my body. For me, an incarnate subject, you are an incarnate subject. We are two woven of bodies and words, beings and Beings, and not merely beings under the spell of a master or which vanish in an imagined virginity.

To touch one another in intersubjectivity, it is necessary that two subjects agree to the relationship and that the possibility to consent exists. Each must have the opportunity to be a concrete, corporeal and sexuate subject, rather than an abstract, neutral, fabricated, and fictitious one.  It is important that each could be able to assent freely before the other approaches and goes beyond the sphere of subjective integrity, an integrity which should be protected by a right.  A yes from both should precede every caress. A yes which gives permission to go beyond the limits of communal life towards your concrete presence.  A yes which is proof of my consent to your approach to my body, to my sensibility and to my most intimate language, all of which being foreign to the coexistence between citizens.