headcanon hour ( @mortalspark ):
whenever they are at fundraisers, functions or conferences, sitting at those endless dinner parties or whatnot, dmitry will sit across from frederick and demand attention by playing footsie under the table. or, more often, he makes funny faces at frederick ( including fingerguns ) to get him to laugh & relax because he knows these things, especially the mass of people, no matter how high frederick praises his colleagues, are strenuous and work their way under his husband’s skin until he can be pretty on the edge. dmitry wants to break the tension and he likes when frederick is all disgruntled and scowls at him but he loves it the most when he gets a smile.
translation: dmitry behaves like a clumsy idiot or a fool to make frederick laugh
dmitry likes to steal frederick’s labcoat and wear it when he visits frederick at work. he likes driving frederick a little mad.
in the beginning, once they start sleeping in the same bed, they both have assigned sides but during the night they will naturally navigate towards each other; dmitry wakes up tangled in frederick more often than not and he will always pull back with his own heartbeat pounding in his ears; he never wants to disrespect frederick’s stone-set boundaries and he always feels like overstepping.
talking about raging crushes? dmitry knew frederick was his type the first time frau blucher showed him a picture. it only got worse when he laid eyes on frederick at their wedding.
dmitry has trust issues the size of russia because all his life prior to transylvania was spent in a constant state of suspicion and survival, it is why he tends to be snappy and stand-offish in the beginning
he drinks. A Lot. a habit carried into his new life that he can hardly break; when he’s not on the job, when he experiences symptoms related to his ptsd, when frederick is not at home, dmitry drinks. it leads to many fights and arguments.
related to his ptsd: depressive episodes. once their relationship turns into more, it gets harder for dmitry to push frederick away; he doesn’t want to, he’s just used to it. for dmitry it has always been easier to alienate everyone so no one would have to see him suffer.
also related to his ptsd: anger issues. like an animal in need of soothing, dmitry doesn’t have a hold on his temper once he enters a bad episode, that includes anger and the physical need to hurt and destroy. it takes him very long to let frederick in and deal with this side of him; there’s always a sense of shame involved when dmitry gets like this.
dmitry is by no means a chef in the kitchen but he has a steady hand and knows how to cook simple, tasty meals, nothing too fancy. this, too, was born out of necessity but it seems to be fruitful. cooking for frederick is a sure fire way to get on his good side ( spoiled brat )
it is true that dmitry has set up frederick’s instagram account; he’s the only person he will let take pictures of him because he only trusts frederick’s vision of him. on his own instagram is a variety of pictures but he likes to post candids of frederick, pictures when the other one wasn’t looking and unaware dmitry was taking a picture.
he has frederick’s initials tattooed on his right side, between his ribs.