#mod queenie

i keep putting off answering this because i was radicalized by personal experience and the way i grew up, so i dont have a lot in the way of resources. that and i have adhd and a full time job so its hard for me to sit down and read anymore.

FYI the ask box is open if you wish to ask me to draw something.

As we all are aware, after 6 years and then some, Rusty Quill Gaming is coming to a close.

To show our love for this incredible story told, to reminisce over memories made with fellow fans, we have put this event together as the journey ends.

The event will span across 10 days, starting November 22nd and finishing on the day of the final episode drop, December 1st. Each day will have up to 3 prompts associated with it, all of which will be shared at the latest 2 months before the event takes place.

You can of course participate as much as you want, from only 1 day to all 10.

Rules and a FAQ will be shared shortly, and until then feel free to reach out on any of our social media or on our discord (all of which will be linked below) with any questions you may have.

Until then, Respect The Craft!

- Mod Queenie

Note: Just theorizing! Nothing is confirmed!

Okay so these are my thoughts on Blue Lion House and FE16 in general:

•Faerghus (Blue Lions) is the good side, the side that truly seeks justice against all that is evil.

•Claude only cares about his kingdom and is only willing to defend it from edelgard’s ppl. But he doesn’t care about the good of other kingdoms. (Unless they benefit his own in some way.)

•Edelgard was corrupted by some kind of darker entity and only seeks to rule Fodlan. However, she claims to bring “justice” and uses words to justify all the destruction she causes

•Possesed Edelgard feeds her people lies about the other two rulers, telling them that Dimitri is a crazed conquerer and Claude has left them for dead/steals from their ppl.

• Dimitri knows of the evil that festers within her (due to ancient texts/legend or some bs) and it’s his destiny to slay the evil

•Claude is literally caught in the crossfire and is forced to pick a side.

•The “faint tinge of darkness” within Dimitri is the result of an ancient curse placed on his ancestors (possibly by Edelgards ppl who are well versed in magic) and can only be cured by a descendent of the caster.

I am sort of confused about how you didn’t have any defense, were you irritated at them that they didn’t respond right away? Or where other things going on? More or less, I guess a defense isn’t what is needed in an apology.Alright Kiddies sit your booties down I am going to teach you how to apologize because not all ways is a Sorry going to cut it. 

My mom use to say “sorry is only good the first time. but if all you do is say sorry then no one will ever believe you are and it is no longer genuine’

so a true apology is not a defnse, no ‘well sorry i was like this because of this’ like then you are removing yourself and putting blame on them or something else.

if you really feel sorry or remorseful it is because of something you did and you know you did a bad.

if you don’t actually feel remosre then you didn’t think you did anything wrong and you just shouldnt even bother apologizing because it will never come out genuine.

first things first you have to realize recgonize what you did wrong.An exampled here is your QP was trying to help and you snapped coming off irritated and upset. Whic you were and I re ask the questions beforewas it themor you that you were irritaed at. You will not be using your response to defend your self this is helping you build you apology.

if it was you just had a shitty day and it wasn’t their fault you were irritaed then you tell them “Look I had a shitty day, tht is no excuse that i snapped at you, you did nothing wrong you were busy and were just trying to help. I am sorry i snapped.”

or if it was them you have to pick more apart, why did it irritate you? Was it nessicary to be irritated? do they do this often? has it hurt your feelings? why did it effect them?

because then you can build up a response. like if you were just irritated because they weren’t responding but you were in a time sensitive moment and they are known to not respond quickly?

“Look, I shouldn’t of snapped, it wasn’t right for me to snap i should have been nicer about it i just really needed the answer right away and was just going to look it up myself, me being irritated shouldn’t of been how i took action’

recgonizing and telling them WHY you were irritated and that you understand you hurt them and are willing to work on a better response for next time is a more genuine and opens up for an actual discussion about your feelings.

sorrys get old, they don’t show you actuall want to change for the better or that you understand WHY you are sorry, a sorry is a closer, a “Look i recgonize why you are sad and upset, what i did that made you upset and I feel remorse and I am willing to be an adult and talk about it more with you’

if you don’t understand why you hurt them own up!

“Look I am sorry I hurt your feelings, I don’t how hurt your feelings would you be willing to talk with me about how I hurt you so I know how to handle the situation better and next time I won’t hurt you again? you are so important to me and I would rather know what I did wrong.”

it opens up a maturity level for you that people will respect and will actually take your apologies seriously.

no matter what the reasons where why you were irritated they are your emotions, your qp has no power to make you feel irritated. only you can feel and stop the feelings. but like wise if your QP is upset you can’t always make them feel better.

 people feel how they are going to feel. Sure what you say to them will effect them but how they react is on thier own power.They don’t have to feel sad or hurt if you do something that inflicts a trigger damage to their emotions

people can act a multitde of ways to things said to them. how they act is on them and how you act is on you.

if you want change then show a level of maturity and talk to them, actually see why you hurt their feelings and recongized yours and their emotions, if they are still upset and they don’t want to talk then you tried at least. take a breath, back off and let them cool. Let them talk when they are ready and lay off the sorrys.

how they feel is how they feel and you can’t do anything about it.

if you are actually sorry you will respect that and let them be. 

this goes for any kind of replationship. romantic, platonic, family, if you really want to apologize more times then not it is better to own up to your mistakes, tell them you know what you did wrong and you are willing to fix it. people will like you so much more and treat you seriously and your relationships will last a lot longer.

I wish you the best of luck with your QP!

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