Ok, so Iâve recently realized that Iâm poly and I donât know how to come out to my partner, and I donât even know their thoughts on it. Iâm really scared. Any advice?
Herc: I mean, believe me, I know it doesnât seem that easy, but... itâs not like you have to go straight out âhey do you wanna be polyâ, you can start more carefully than that. Bring it up in a conversation, ask whether the person knows what a polyamorous relationship even means and what they think about it.Â
Herc: Communication is important in every kind of relationship, but especially when itâs not monogamous, you gotta make sure your partners are comfortable with the way you handle your relationship. Thereâs not like... one right way to be poly, you gotta figure out where your boundaries are and what youâre okay with and what not.Â
Herc: And coming out is coming out, one way or another, and... well, a lot of people are cooler than they actually seem, and others take some time to come around but end up being okay anyway. I promise it wonât be the end of the world even if it does seem like that in the beginning. That goes for family members and partners both.Â
