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You can call insulting 95% of the population being humorous if you want. I call it being a cunt. Stop it.
Is your only example of "anti cis bigotry" from 8 and a half years ago posted by a mod who isn't even on this blog anymore? all you got? I'm certain you could do better.
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to the person who sent this anon in the middle of the night.
Come off anon and put your chest into it.
Hell, I am once again extending my offer, if you pay me, I will come on your podcast for you to explain my gender to me. Not 100 dollars anymore though, this inflation shit is nasty, its 150 now.
-mod gillian
This question might be a bit nebulous, but, would it bother you to know that a person you know can't help but think of you as either a boy or a girl or whatever, in their head? I know someone who's non-binary, but in my head my first reaction is always to see them as a girl. Keep in mind, I respect their identity and use neutral pronouns and all that, it's just that in my mind I can't help my first impression.
uh, yeah. it's pretty rude actually. you better make sure this person never finds out you see them that way, because its fucking disrespectful.
Mod Gillian
I've known for a long time that I'm nonbinary and still haven't been able to come out to anyone, mostly because I'm afraid of regular old transphobia. But also: one of my closest friends is nonbinary, but has talked before about feeling strongly that you can't be nonbinary and use binary pronouns. I want to keep my agab pronouns, so I don't feel like I'll be accepted by my friend either. I've considered changing to they/them just so I can come out to them, but that feels so unfair to me.
Your friend sucks, and they're wrong.
Stop hanging out with people like this. We get asks like this all the time. Why are you all hanging out with these losers?? Why is your bar for a "friend" in the ground when it comes to them being weird and hateful towards your identities specifically?? Please, it's better for your head in the long term to not have people like this around.
Today I bought a binder.
After years of thinking about it, after nervously seeking my mom’s approval, and after a particularly nasty bought of dysphoria, on my break at work, I walked into a tiny little self-proclaimed queer run establishment.
There were books for sale, and art, and patches, and buttons, all the things that have become so standard to the experience of scrolling through tumblr, the aesthetics of the “Openly lgbtq+ college student”. I indulged, looking at silly little cat stickers while the person at the register had to run out to move their car.
In the back of this tiny shop (the size of a gas station bathroom) is a little change room, and hangers. 4 Different styles of binders, a small rack of gaff panties in various cuts next to them.
Despite my conviction, my obvious androgyny, and the person’s “She/they” pin on their shirt, I could barely croak out that I wanted to try on a binder. Her face, despite the mask, lit up, and she explained the selection to me. As they were handing me different sizes to try on, they said “This is a big step, but also not a step at all. It’s just clothes, and if it doesn’t suit you, you just don’t put it on.”
I cried in the change room. I suddenly felt like I was actually looking at myself after years of the mirrors being wrong. Which felt crazy, because I had convinced myself for a long time my dysphoria wasn’t that bad. That other people needed medical transitioning more than I did, that other trans youth needed the clothing exchange program more than I did, that I could go my whole life half-closeted.
Things have changed a lot.
Today I bought a binder.
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as pride season rolls around again, I am begging you to not buy pride merch from big companies. Please support LGBTQ+ artists and creators, don’t mindlessly consume the lazy shit corporations are slapping together to make a quick buck off of our community’s desperation for acceptance. Those companies will as soon throw us to the dogs as they will accept us, and which they choose is entirely conditional.
dealing with deadnaming
i’ve come out to my friends and i believe they understood it. i changed my name around new people and everything. my old friends are still calling me by my deadname because i thought it might be a hard change for them but now my new friends are calling me by it too. any tips on telling them it’s wrong or how to deal with it?
Stop letting your old friends deadname you? Your new friends might think you have two names that you're fine with being called, or, you know, worse, transphobic things. Your old friends are just going to have to put in the effort to use your name, it's not on you to feel burdened with making things more "difficult" for them. Remind them nicely whenever they deadname you, make it clear to everyone that you're not tolerating it anymore.
-mod gillian
are gncs part of the lgbtq+ community?
not necessarily? There's lots of LGBTQ+ people who would consider themselves GNC, and there are plenty of people who are cishet and are GNC too. Gendered expectations are, dare I say, an outmoded form of social control and are gradually being abandoned, and that's a good thing.
