im hawaiian but im pretty damn white passing, and i live in the south. my parents are divorced and my dad is,,, really gross, one time he told me not to talk about being hawaiian because he "doesnt like to think of me that way". i dated a boy once and i vented a VERY SMALL amount about hawaiian issues and he. fucking laughed at me, and then went on a rant about how nobody cares about hawaiian people and i should actually be glad for haoles colonizing us for xyz bullshit reason. (1/2)
needless to say that relationship didnt last?? and im generally so sick of it, and i just. it feels really bad. if i hear one more “oh, like lilo lol” im gonna scream. one time i was talking to a white girl in world cultures club (which i dont go to any more, long story but take some guesses and youre prob not far off), and i told her i was hawaiian. she proceeded to request that i “do something hawaiian”. when i asked she clarify she made generic hula motions. :/. (2/2)
first of all, i’m s o sorry. racist family members make you feel even w rose than racist strangers. you are strong for not letting it penetrate your own thoughts about yourself. i’m also sorry that someone entered a safe space for pocs and ruined it for you. i’m so sorry you’ve been boxed into specific stereotypes. you and hawaiian culture is so much more than what we see in our media. ( not to mention that not every hawaiian person is tied to the culture ). you are so strong for advocating for yourself & speaking up. stay safe, friend !
