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My height is only relevant because healthy weight changes on how tall you are so me saying I’m class one obese at 5’5 and 200 lbs is different than someone that’s 4’9 or 6’3. I mention my weight often since weight loss is a life change I am making.

Very funny that you sent anon “hate” after I posted trying to reach out to other fat people to help them save their own lives from a disempowering movement that wants them to die rather than make any changes in their lives for the better.

Not to be all high and mighty but I think I like fat people more than you because I want them to live.

I want to say this loud and clear:

I love my fat family and I want us all to live and I want us to be happy.

It just so happens that to accomplish that we need to reduce the amount of adipose tissue and visceral fat in our bodies.

I know “fat” has become an identity to a lot of people, and it’s a shame, because when I suggested saving your life you thought it meant not accepting you. It’s not the same thing.

When I was very young my mom was a smoker. I told her to stop, not because I didn’t love her. Smoking was hurting her, I didn’t want her to hurt because I loved her.

I made that post because I’ve had depression since pre-pubescence and I never thought my life was worth saving. I never thought I could make things better through my own actions. But I am learning that I can, and I don’t want anyone to feel like that. Fat acceptance is the epitome of self-defeat. It’s learned helplessness sold with a social justice veneer.

Other social justice movements don’t feel like this. They don’t feel like the leaders are willing to let you die. They don’t lie about founders being minorities (when they were actually white hetero chubby chasers) and they can actually name the founders! They don’t spread scientific misinformation. They don’t ignore deaths in their communities. They don’t say that people living longer lives is a genocide (I am referring to the Ozempic discussions that have been happening for a year now).

Don’t you feel used? Don’t you feel like this movement is digging your grave? Not to mention the ultra-processed food companies happy to cash out on you while they do it.

Stop hurting yourself babe.

I love that you are pivoting toward mindful movement + foods that nourish you. These are great steps to feel healthier. And maybe you get weight loss as the side effect, and maybe that’s a positive for you. great! But the weight loss is not the feeling healthier. The weight loss and the feeling healthier are just two effects of the choices you’re making. Most crucially, another person making those same choices might not see the same effect re: weight loss.

Me, I only lose weight when I’m dead stressed. Weight loss has always corresponded for me with my health worsening, feeling tired and ill all the time. Eating healthier — adding in more fresh produce, cutting back on soda etc — has never, in my whole 26 years alive, made me any lighter. Has it helped: yes of course! My joints hurt less when i dont have so much caffeine, and i dont bruise so easily when I get some fruit juice in me once in a while. Going on a walk in the mornings helps me feel energized for the day. These are all great things that I’m glad I chose to do. But none of them have made me lose weight.

Idk. In all of what I’ve seen it just feels like maybe you’re taking what’s worked or feels right for you and making that mean it’ll be right for everyone. For me, weight loss only happens if I starve myself or if I’m so stressed my hair is falling out. It’s not a good choice for me. But health IS a choice I can always make, even if my weight going down isnt included in that. That’s what health at every size is supposed to mean — that no matter our size and no matter where or whether we are on a weight loss journey, we can still choose health and most importantly receive the same quality of healthcare that straight sized people receive.

Hi! First off I want to say I really appreciate you sending a message in good faith and willing to actually talk. It's been a rough 24 hours trying to have an actual conversation and idk I just wanted to thank you for that.

if your magic diet worked so well, why aren't you skinny yet??

sorry i love myself and you don't. get well soon.

Shaming? Where? I am trying to empower fat people, not shame them.

I am shaming the fat acceptance movement and food conglomerates, but those are systems not people.

By magic diet you mean whole foods? The things we’ve been eating since we existed? Actually, you know what, I will give you that. It is pretty magical. Thank you mother earth!!

As I mentioned to the people in the replies, it’s difficult to lose weight with the chronic conditions I have. Depression and insomnia especially make it difficult to want to move or make good choices.

If you loved yourself, why are you here? People who love themselves don’t send anon hate lol.

Thanks for wishing me well though! My insomnia has been very bad lately so I need a little extra boost.

But I was reading through the reblogs and it was a nightmare. Someone denied a glp-1 for their sleep apnea because it’s seen as fatphonic to take it, when Zepbound is approved for sleep apnea because it helps with weight loss… and weight loss for sleep apnea can literally save you from NOT BREATHING IN YOUR SLEEP!?!? AND DYING???

I only have mild sleep apnea so I don’t qualify but I am trying to lose weight the old fashioned way.

With sleep apnea I wake up in literal terror. and as I come to I go through the even more terrifying realization that its because my oxygen had dropped to 79%!!! What if I suffocated so long I died???

I don’t want to be terrified of sleep. I don’t want to be exhausted all the time.

And you know what? I don’t want all this weight on my joints either. I don’t want to hurt all the time.

Over 2 in 5 adults in the U.S. are obese, and heart disease is the number one killer. So stop fucking fearmongering about weight loss!

I don’t want to hire a trainer though, I am too anxious (and don’t have enough money tbh)

For easter I got: -1 lb!!

Weighed in at 193 this morning 🥳 that means I am ~23 lbs down from the start (give or take a few since our scale is wonky)

My goal is to be a down to at least 190 before my sleep apnea appointment, because weight loss is the best thing to possibly “cure” it (aka my airway won’t be as blocked/restricted).