#metasyscourse

We genuinely do not get all that upset when people disagree with us on the issues, the thing we hate is when people misrepresent an argument. We think it's harmful to tell people they have trauma they don't remember without being their psychiatrist or therapist. We think, in general, if you disagree or are uncomfortable with someone existing a certain way you have an obligation to separate yourself from them, not to try to change their behavior.

I feel uncomfortable and don't necessarily believe every person in the community with my whole chest, but it's also not my business. I was wrong about my origins and system functioning multiple times in the past, but someone coming into the tag to tell me that I'm totally wrong about it was not, in fact, how I figured that out. People find the truth on their own time.

So I guess this is our stance on syscourse: if it upsets you, makes you angry, or triggers you to lash out at people questioning your claims in good faith, maybe don't. Just find a place where you can have a nice time on the internet. I do this mostly for shits and giggles and because the syscourse space is very low on voices that have been part of the community for any significant length of time, to its detriment. I've gotten anons telling me to unalive myself, calling me fake, insulting and harassing me for...at least the past eight years? It isn't going to bother me.

But if it bothers you, stop hurting yourself and putting others at risk of being hurt by you. If you can't handle someone being a little snippy with you, then don't. Engage. Delete the account and stop putting yourself at risk for being drawn back in.