#megan devine

There are losses that rearrange the world. Deaths that change the way you see everything, grief that tears everything down. Pain that transports you to an entirely different universe, even while everyone else thinks nothing has really changed.

The reality of grief is far different from what others see from the outside. There is pain in this world that you can't be cheered out of. You don't need solutions. You don't need to move on from your grief. You need someone to see your grief, to acknowledge it. You need someone to hold your hands while you stand there in blinking horror, staring at the hole that was your life. Some things cannot be fixed. They can only be carried.

Can you write something about losing your grandpa, and being overwhelmed by grief? I feel like I’m losing myself ever since I lost him.

“Some things cannot be fixed. They can only be carried.”

The real cutting edge of growth and development is in hurting with each other. It’s in companionship, not correction. Acknowledgment - being seen and heard, and witnessed inside the truth about one’s own life - is the only real medicine for grief.