#mayhemtown

I had a DM conversation with someone a few months ago where they apologized for their contributions to the harassment campaign done by my old friends and feeding it with misinformation from their general lack of knowledge, and in their messages they expressed some sort of fear of coming across as manipulative for stating how bad they felt and apologizing for it, like they were giving me a preemptive warning that that wasn't their intention, likely because they've gotten that accusation before. Which has me thinking about how younger people have been conditioned to think sincere guilt and especially the expression of it after they had time to reflect is a manipulation tactic because no one wants to admit that change like that is possible, everyone always just wants a reason to hate someone. Everyone has been pushed into the box of thinking others are either good or bad and that it cannot change. I see that a lot in younger people, and that in-and-of-itself is what's actually toxic, yet no one seems to catch onto that. I really just wish people could have sincere conversations without throwing an accusation of insincerity into the mix just because someone is expressing guilt and regret openly. Immediate vilifying like that only serves to make people afraid of apologizing in an emotionally mature and meaningful way.