#magic-retina

Re: special pronouns: 

I don’t know that many people who’ve used special pronouns over a long period of time. I know lots of people who’ve tried them!

Basically, I’ve been told the tension is: feeling 100% comfortable v needing to school literally every person you meet in how to use the pronouns. 

Here’s what people who use other pronouns have told me: 

Having the ‘correct pronoun’ conversation gets easier every time you have it. You eventually become numb to people’s reactions, even if they’re bad. 

It’s a good way to filter out people who are not ready to try and understand your gender and be accepting from people who are open and curious about it, and ready to accept it. 

Friends and family typically do become used to them over time and eventually don’t even have to think about using them. 

Re: Binary Pronouns:

I’m non-binary, I use binary pronouns and I present as a woman. I don’t even really mind woman-gendered language, even if I always noticed it and feel a little uncomfortable. I always pause before I type ‘women’ if I’m talking about myself in that group of people. I notice when people call me a woman. I notice pronouns and feel a little weird about them, and I really, really dislike discussing my gender except in really safe spaces or spaces I control (like this one). I say my ‘preference’ is woman-gendered pronouns, but it’s not strictly true. I would prefer to live in a world where pronouns aren’t gendered in ANY language. Gendered pronouns seems so ridiculous to me. Gendered language seems so ridiculous to me. Gender seems ridiculous to me, when I think about how I relate to it, although I understand it on an intellectual level. 

I feel like while ‘woman’ doesn’t describe me, in a way it does? I’m oppressed in the same way a woman is because I look like a woman. I use ‘woman’ to describe myself for the sake of easy. I feel a kinship with the term, even though I’m not 100% comfortable with it. I’m also reasonably comfortable letting people assume I’m a woman. 

I wouldn’t ‘recommend’ using binary pronouns, because it’s a decision each person needs to make for themselves about what they feel comfortable with.

I work in a professional job where I meet new people every day. I can’t be bothered having a discussion about gender to everyone. I work in a position where I’m counselling and advocating for very vulnerable people. My service is about them, not about me. I need to be invisible, and not having a gender that confuses people makes sure they aren’t focused on me and my personal life. 

Hahaha! I bet the people on that flight are maaaaaad. XD I love her stripy socks and just the whole mood and atmosphere of this :)

It's worth noting that in the USA, where the comic is made, it is not illegal to draw small-breasted, naked cartoons. Still, this whole thing about assuming aging up characters is just an excuse to be a pedo is bullshit; real pedos don't age up characters, that's why they're pedophiles (attracted to CHILDREN, not teens or young adults)!

Ah, fair enough, the laws differ from country to country. As I mentioned to someone else, when researching for my response I found out Scotland’s laws differ from England's, since they have their own legal system and what not, so cartoon images representing children are legal. Go figure it’d be Scotland.

You’re too right my friend, you’re too right. Actual paedophiles don’t want to age up characters, if anything, they want to deage them to fit their paedophilic fantasies. I do understand that Ava being 15 in comics cause the whole nsfw content situation to be cast in a grey area, but 1) everyone ages her up appropriately, 2) any nsfw content I have personally seen has been safe and consensual, and 3) people treat Ava as if she’s a child instead of a teenager. There are girls her age who have sexual relations, this is not new information.

And I can’t reiterate enough how this is all fictional. None of this is real. Why is there so much aggro over a non existent person. 

newsflash assface there’s no such thing as “tastefully censored” nude art of a kid

This is good stuff! I have a suspicion that the prince in question could be Six. If Gev were going to have such a large role in the story I feel like we might have seen him on the cast page.

Here’s my secret Santa for @Magic-retina, I’m your backup Santa! I hope you enjoy!

All these kids trying to start The Discourse about the only identity in the LGBTQ+ arena I have are upsetting this old blind queer. XD I’m glad you’re not backing down; I couldn’t handle this much BS so thanks for standing up to these little bullies when not all of us can. :)

I love ‘queer’ because it’s good for both sexuality and gender, but when I say it, people assume sexuality so I don’t have to elaborate about my endless gender questioning if I don’t want to!

It’s perfect. It gives me room to move, but also marks me as part of a group of people. My sexuality and gender may change over time, but ‘queer’ is always true, and for that reason, and because it’s always been used in a uniting, empowering way for me... I love it. It means all the sex, sexuality, gender-diverse folks are included, always. It’s the perfect word. I’d never even heard it used as a slur before interacting  with American folks on Tumblr! 

You’ve been far nicer than I would have been here, Asy. That bit about Min makes me very angry. You know how I feel about Min and can rather relate to their struggles in the pronoun department. XD