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Vreeza is competing in the @original-character-championship​ bracket! Please vote for them! VOTE FOR VREEZA HERE: https://www.tumblr.com/original-character-championship/714142908732850176/bracket-f-round-1

Please also check out Vreeza’s page on my website, https://ocpdzim.neocities.org/vreeza ! There, you can see a lot more art, their playlist, way more information about them, and several short written pieces about them! Feel free also to send asks about Vreeza - chances are whatever you’re wondering about I have an answer for it.

Out of my OCs, Vreeza is the one who has seen the most continuous use - they’re my primary character for chatroom RP with my friends, and they have been since 2017! They’re an alien who came to Earth for a school project when they were 13, but almost immediately crashed their spaceship in the Everglades while trying to park it and got stranded. In the years since then, they’ve been living there in their tiny space camper, growing most of their own food in the lab, and have made a lot of friends online. Their school was pretty rough, so they’re happy to be on Earth even though they’re technically stranded in a hostile environment.

Vreeza’s usual appearance is actually a holo-disguise, they originally put it together simply for the purpose of avoiding trouble but they now wear it nearly all the time, even when they’re at home, because they’ve gotten used to it - they consider it more their face than their actual face is, since they designed it themself and since it’s the one all their friends know them by. Without it, they look like this:

A fun fact about Vreeza is they’re like, double nonbinary - their culture has 4 different assigned genders, none of which are “man” or “woman,” so everyone there would be nonbinary by human standards, but Vreeza’s gender is ALSO not any of those four either. Upon arriving on Earth and encountering men and women, they assumed that humans were just really into neopronouns, and since they thought that was awesome since they’re nonquaternary too and therefore never said anything about it, no one has had a chance to correct them.

Also, the inside of their shitty little space mobile home looks like this:

an intrusive thought is an unwanted, involuntary thought. that’s it, that’s the only criteria. it is a normal occurrence. they can be about anything, but they are usually about things one would find upsetting, which includes violence and other things one finds morally wrong, but can also include things like the idea of doing something strange out of nowhere, like the much maligned “eat a leaf” intrusive thoughts. sometimes they can also just be unwelcome thoughts that don’t involve thinking about oneself participating in anything- for instance, “what if the house catches on fire.” studies have found that nearly all people experience intrusive thoughts, but people without a disorder aren’t particularly bothered by them.

what most people on tumblr are presumably referring to when talking about (and attempting to gatekeep) intrusive thoughts are the distressing intrusive thoughts that people with ocd, ptsd, and some other disorders experience. 

the ONLY difference between disordered intrusive thoughts and normal intrusive thoughts is that the disordered ones are upsetting, frequent, and hard to get rid of. the content can still be of literally anything, as long as it is an intrusive thought, bothers the person having it, and is a recurring problem.  

obviously, violence is a really common topic for these intrusive thoughts, because a lot of people find it upsetting. other common topics include sexual acts, hurting oneself, doing nonviolent hurtful things (like saying awful things to your friends), religious blasphemy for religious people, sudden thoughts about tragic events occurring, implausible fears that come out of nowhere, and so on. once again, though, these are not the only forms disordered intrusive thoughts CAN take- they’re just especially common ones. someone who’s scared of lizards may have intrusive thoughts about a lizard coming in their house. someone who’s got contamination fears might have intrusive thoughts about touching objects that may be dirty. etc. 

why does this matter so much to me? well first of all it makes me really mad to see people posting misinformation all over the place, just in general. please learn to fact check. second of all, though, i have OCD, which was once debilitating but is now more at the level of “constant misery i can still function through,” thanks to various coping strategies - and this misinformation-fueled sanctimonious gatekeeping directly excludes and mocks some of my debilitating intrusive thoughts, which also makes them worse. 

See, I have intrusive thoughts, a lot. This includes violent ones. But the violent ones don’t hold a candle to the ones about putting foreign objects in my mouth. 

Uh oh, though, that category includes “eat a leaf!” guess it’s not Tumblr Approved, even though it causes me way more distress than any intrusive thought about violence to myself or others ever has! see though, the problem is that YOU might find the idea of eating a leaf funny, or quirky, or whatever. I find it upsetting beyond measure. This is because it sets off my contamination fears to a debilitating degree, it causes me to imagine a bad sensory input in detail which is almost as bad as actually experiencing it, if the leaf is toxic it could kill me, and it is something i could feasibly do if i lost control for just a second. and then, on top of the extreme distress it causes me, i must come online and see a bunch of fuckers who love to PRETEND that they care about people with ocd have a great big fun time pretending like it is a fake intrusive thought for liars and scoundrels and that people like me having it hurts them somehow - so on top of being personally horrifying, it now also has an “upsets people” component!

Neither those thoughts nor the violent ones are the worst ones I experience- I don’t like to put a name to the worst ones. There are also plenty of other miscellaneous less severe but still very upsetting ones that just aren’t relevant to this post. 

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hc that leon is a red fanboy, sonia a green fangirl and raihan a lance fanboy and they argue about who is best boy a lot LMAO

I’m gonna open with a summary of the original post this was going to be a response to, since this still reads like a response: the post claimed that it is transphobic for a bisexual person to say that they’re attracted to one binary gender as well as nonbinary people, because all sexualities can include nonbinary people. It said a bunch of other stuff in it too, not all of which was that awful, but that particular stupid claim is what this post is responding to.

although it is true that all sexualities can include nonbinary people, they can’t all include EVERY nonbinary person because some of us consider it misgendering if someone is openly attracted to us while also having an orientation that usually implies, in colloquial usage, attraction to one specific binary gender and not the other (i.e. straight, gay, or lesbian). Furthermore, some nonbinary people might be comfortable with attraction from some of these orientations but not others, i.e. being comfortable with attraction from people attracted to women but not from people attracted to men or vice versa, or not wanting to date straight people but being ok with anyone else.

obviously, people can’t control their attraction, but the easy solution is that if you’re attracted to someone who’s uncomfortable with it and you don’t want to change your label, you can Just Shut Up About Being Attracted To That Specific Person And Not Pursue Them Further, and go look for either a binary person or a nonbinary person who’s comfortable with attraction from monosexuals. just like you would if they were simply not interested in you! however, if you really want to continue openly being attracted to them or even date them, you should probably reconsider your labels, so that you’re not misgendering them.

the idea that it’s necessarily transphobic for someone to say they’re bisexual and attracted to one binary gender + nonbinary people, as claimed in the post i was going to put this as a reblog to, is absolutely ludicrous, because depending on the person involved, chances are they’re identifying that way specifically as a show of respect for the nonbinary people they’re attracted to. for example, i have a friend irl who identified as lesbian before starting to date a nonbinary person who didn’t want to be associated with womanhood in any way because it made them dysphoric- in order to not cause dysphoria to her partner, and in order to avoid them getting misgendered every single time she told people she was a lesbian and this was her partner, which invariably led to people assuming they were a woman, she started identifying as bisexual even though she is still not attracted to men. this was generally considered by everyone else in the friend group to be considerate and the only reasonable way of moving forward aside from them just not dating each other.

i fortunately do not usually have to deal with this since i don’t date, but if i was going to date someone, i would be extremely uncomfortable with dating anybody who IDed as anything other than either m-spec (be that bi, pan, or something else) and/or aroace but ok with dating. it still makes me very uncomfortable if monosexual people are openly attracted to me, but fortunately since i don’t ever want a relationship i can personally deal with that by just telling them to stop talking to me, just like i do when anyone else says they’re attracted to me. if someone says they’re monosexual but also attracted to me, that feels to me like they’re saying at best “i’m attracted to you because you’re close enough to the binary gender i’m mostly attracted to, although you are not exactly that gender,” and at worst “well, you’re basically a woman/man, so i’m attracted to you,” and neither of those is a sentiment i am anywhere in the neighborhood of OK with.

If someone says they’re bisexual and attracted to one binary gender + nonbinary people, that also does not necessarily imply, as claimed with no basis in the post I was going to put this as a reblog to, that they’re basing their attraction in assigned gender. At least going by the bisexual people I’ve met who identify this way, it’s usually got way more to do with presentation, and less often is related to discomfort with the binary gender not included in the attraction (i.e. someone who will not date any men, either cis or trans, due to having had a bad experience with one, but will date anybody else regardless of assigned gender). Believe it or not, just like other orientations, bisexuality doesn’t have to be based on assigned gender and can instead be based on, you know, people’s actual genders! Because nonbinary people are real people with real genders, that includes ours! If it WAS about assigned gender, though? I’d much rather them acknowledge that not everyone of one assigned gender is the same actual gender than go around claiming to be attracted to just one gender! How the hell is acknowledging that not everyone is cis by IDing as bisexual more transphobic than claiming to be monosexual because they’re just into one AGAB? It’s still bad if someone bases their attraction in assigned gender, but the problem isn’t the label they use, it’s that they are doing that at all and it would be just as bad if not worse if they IDed as monosexual.

Here are all 11 of last year’s pride plants, including a new and improved recolor of the lesbian pride plant to match the new most common flag! 

In order they are: Asexual, Aromantic, Lesbian, Aroflux, Agender, Nonbinary, Grayromantic, Akoiromantic, Demigirl, Abrosexual, and Neutrois.