#ljbf

Something is different, and I’m not sure what.

In March I briefly dated a woman I met on a dating app. It was an out-and-out disaster. She was weird, but I persevered because I enjoyed spending time with her. Then she caught feelings after a week and I was forced to end it because I didn’t want to lead her on.

Since then, though, it’s been apparent that something is different. I find that I’m acting more assertive. I’m asking women I like for their phone numbers, and they usually give them to me. I’ve been on a lunch date and a few hangouts.

When I find myself interested in a woman, I go up and speak with her. My normal MO is to just pine away in the corner and hope we magically end up in bed together.

I asked one woman for her number, and after I asked her out for coffee she gave me the whole “just got out of a relationship” thing and she wasn’t interested. I offered friendship as an alternative, and she seemed fine with it. We got together this weekend, and the whole time she was giving indicators of interest. Playing with hair, body leaning into mine, etc. No physical touch, but body language was there.

It confused the hell out of me. I was genuinely okay with the prospect of friendship.

I mean, she hasn’t confessed her undying love for me or anything. We just had coffee. It was a lot of fun, though. A friend of mine suggested that this woman might be interested in something down the line once she gets to know me. I was skeptical; that typically doesn’t work for me. I usually become best friends with them and they marry someone else.

Don’t get me wrong; I’m not a bitter neckbeard. I am mostly confused about how all of this shit is supposed to work.

So Ms. Saturday Night wants to keep seeing me, but doesn't want anything "romantic." No, I don't think she means a FB or FWB. Or maybe she does. Either way, omg, NEXT! I hate being used for non-sex just as much as the other way!

Ha, she's probably MARRIED, which is my stock excuse for any and all weirdness from people in dating. Seriously, it fucks people up. They think they're ready to date, then all of a sudden "OMG FEELINGS" and the pearl-clutching ensues.

I guess this one turned into a bit of a wall of text...Oops!

So now Girl2...

Uh Your Honor?  I was led to believe the defendant had romantic interests based on her past behaviors.  But this whole speech has indicated this was a mutual mistake of fact and really a miscommunication.

Okay and what would you like?

Sue for damages in wasted time, effort, and (additional) emotional scarring.

So the lets just be friends "For real" proposal is unsatisfactory?

NOPE.  Wholly unsatisfactory.  I'm also not even sure I will be able to fulfill basic friendship requirements because there are close to half a dozen "just friends" who are female and already queued up who would like to see me.

Damages granted.