as always, hello to my 9 true real life friends, some of my 22 (instagram) āclose friendsā, my 40 internet besties, the handful of you i was able to lure over here with a LiNk iN BiO, the growing number of [redacted] who are unnervingly conspicuous with their surveillance, maybe some other weirdos and haters!, at least 2 of my exes, my therapist if i ask her to read this to understand me better, my daughter in 14-18 years, and anyone else who is here and can read this!!
as a preface to a list of extravagant treasures i wish to receive this holiday season, i am going to tell you a little story. if you donāt care and just want to buy me a gift or just want to use this to curate yours, scroll to the bottom. there are words and jokes down there too if youāre here for all of it!!! (if you need inspiration from years past, iāve been making this list for 10 years.)
the only times i feel safe are when i am at home, or when i am 5000 miles away from it. anything in between causes absolute chaos within my emotional microbiome.
in america, i am a sentient eggshell and all external stimuli are hammers. outside of america, i am an invincible-cartoon-fireball capable of any and all things through the EU.
once a week i volunteer, and once a month i drive 40-90 miles in one of the four directions to buy a lotto ticket at a random authorized lotto retailer (surprisingly not sponsored), and thatās it.
when iām home, i do the same thing every day - Ā i wake up, i go to cult (this is what i call meditation because iāve been doing it consistently for a year and i have no idea why), i write down everything iām grateful for*, and i read (a literal book) for 20 minutes before performing my morning ablutions and walking downstairs to drink poison (espresso) and sit in my office tip tapping my ipad for 6-8 hours. then i watch some of the worst television you can ever imagine until itās time to go to sleep, at which point i do a cult bonus track - itās called āthree good thingsā, and itās exactly as the name implies - eat two peppermint patties v slowly, and go to sleep with my television blasting and every light on.
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(*ok sorry for being sincere for a moment but i need to genuinely recommend the gratitude journal practice because it changed my life. thank you for only engaging with this if it aligns positively with you and excluding it from your personal dossier of me if it doesnāt.
anyway, i also love cult because it allows me 30 minutes of controlled focus on every thought i have ever had in my entire life without even a single moment of peace. my inner monologue is a thought-orgy and i am merely a captive and reluctant eavesdropper.)
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when iām on vacation, i am a different character from white lotus every day.
this year for my birthday, i chartered a yacht off the amalfi coast (cameron) and sat on it alone for 3 days (ethan). on the 4th day, danielle arrived and we confused the crew by being on vacation together in italy but not fucking. (daphne/harper)
on the 5th day, danielle found out i donāt like music (youāll need this information later), and on the 6th day, God created man, and one of them asked us if weād like a massage.
being of sound mind, my first thought was to question this person (employed as a deckhand) on his ability to massage.
he assured us both that he and his fellow deckhand could āof courseā massage!
having seen every episode of every franchise of below deck i was wary but i trust men intrinsically (tanya) and i love nothing more than to be consensually touched (dominic) so i said great, weāll take two! and we settled on āin ten minutesā for the time.
he returned moments later to lead us in a troubling talk on massage logistics - namely, where the massages would take place and on what apparatus.
you, like we, may be thinking: what about a massage table on the sun deck? and thatās a great thought. however, there were no massage tables, so our two deckhand-cum-massage therapists decided theyād conduct the massages they assured us they were equipped to conduct on twin beds in one of the downstairs bedrooms.
10 minutes later we arrived to a room large enough to accommodate two adults lying down, or a small child standing up but being v still:
danielle and i pretended this was not weird (mia/lucia), and as soon as our four adult bodies were within the same energy field we all signed a spiritual contract to never speak about this again! unfortunately danielle and i signed in watercolor and have spoken about it ad nauseam every day since.
one of the guys asked what music he should put on, but before he finished the question, danielle had interrupted him in an octave iāve never heard her voice go to utter the words āMERCEDES DOESNāT LIKE MUSIC.ā ā¦ effectively solidifying our fate to have the weirdest experience of our lives in deafening silence!
without leaving the room, they told us to lie down - which we did - and they each returned to our respective sides to *SIT ON THE BED* and massage us with this australian jerk off oil while our faces were mushed sideways into a twin bed for a staggering and completely arbitrary 101 minutes.
the only time ive ever had a massage this unmethodical is every time my boyfriend wants to have sex, and the only reason this one ended was because someone came in to chastise them for being *below deck* for so longā¦ at which point they both got up and left without saying a word!!
anyway ~ thatās how i met your mother ~ (sorry iāve taken this out and put it back in 8 times. it stays!)
danielle and i are two asexual freaks so this (our villain origin story) never registered to us as a potentially sexual thing, but it has to a lot of people weāve told! ā¦ and to those people i say: interesting. please consider my trauma when selecting a gift from the below list to send to me š thank you!
THE LIST
(disclaimer: all i want for my birthday is for everyone i love to be healthy, happy, rich and divinely protected (so far so good tbh!!!!), and for you to donate to the boys and girls club if you have the means. this is merely a list of things i think would be funny or nice or silly to receive:)
the intangible:
to pass a law abolishing all waters i donāt like - there are too many to name, but at the very least letās start with dasani, aquafina, and nestle purelife, for someone to defund Revolve and redirect the money to fund research to corroborate my theory that people who wear clothes that say āspiritual gangsterā lack a functioning frontal lobe and should not have rights, for everyone who doesnāt like me to continue doing that because that must be very taxing, for prison reform that allows ālove after lockupā to expand itās filming schedule, for mary kate and olivier to reconcile (please click that link if youāre new here), for jeff bezos to give me a little something in his will, to be paid for all the vacations iām going to go on in the future and that they never involve a massage on a twin bed.
the ones you can buy:
* these gorgeous little poison cups to elevate morning beverages content. also gorgeous!! these are interesting!
* iām looking to redo my whole personality in the vein of someoneās really religious auntie. it starts in the dining room, here. for more in the collection, may i direct you here.
*a stunning throw: in pink!!! or this cheaper (v reasonably priced, tbh!) one, the blush pink not that crazy pink in the larger size!
* this thing for my desk. i would accept this but donāt really like the branding.
* a 5 night stay at this hotel (a suite or above)
* a black birkin with gold hardware in 25 or 35. no links, iykyk
* this coat in grey or camel. xs!
* buy danielleās book. (this story is not in it, but better ones are)
* this tray to eat chips and peppatties in bed. this will likely be sold out but here.
* i donāt want these but definitely want to make you aware gucci are selling incense for one hundred dollars, and perhaps we should collectively look into deplatforming them.
* a pair of solid gold 3 inch hoops. i have no links :(
* iād like to speak to the medium who has a show on bravo, please.Ā this is him. i do not want to be āreadā on the tv show. i do not want tickets to see his live show. i want to speak to a dead person through this man. one on one. (you can come if you organize it.)
* these slippers. size 8.
* this bracelet and bonus if you have a platinum amex, you get $50 back or something for shopping at saks! love to pay it forward!!
* this jug of perfume for a room!
* this jug for water at varying temperatures. matte black.
* this art, this art, this art, this art, or this art. iām going to buy this for myself but i love this artist, so iām sharing.
* this alluring bookend that is on sale (x2)!
* i donāt need this but i like the way it looks and so iām passing it on. itās a weight but who exercises at homeā¦ so itās a hat for your floor.
* trying this again: for someone to create a āthe floor is lavaā set for my birthday where i can do āthe floor is lavaā SEPARATELY with each of my 9 friends - none of whom know each other, which is intentional and by design.
* these shoes. size 8
* these earrings. i tried to buy these on black friday but then i forgot. i may just buy them myself. who knows!
* a real two hour massage
* caviar
* i like her bc i think we have the same body
* these french almond praline sugar things from provence that i bought at duty free and iāll never find again. and i went on this website and tried to email them to ask them to send them to me (it appears they cannot do that) and i really donāt want to get into it but i spent hours trying to secure them bc theyāre that good so i guess this is not an item itās just a pass on should you ever be in provence or at an airport in france.
* a $24,000 tribute to the mascot for Word.
some passing it forward gifts (things i donāt need (because i own them most likely) but they are nice!!)
* these cute, non threatening pajamas
* my favorite luxe, somewhat threatening pajamas
* the only sheets i allow on my bed and body are pratesi but danielle bought me monogrammed pillowcases (super, binx) from here and !!!!
* i think i always recommend diptyque candles but we are also a
cade (you have to ask for this, they donāt keep them out š) household now and newly a boysmells household.
* skincare is kind of a lame gift bc everyoneās skin is so different but i have the most reactive skin in the world so iād like to pass along three of the only things that donāt ruin my life: this (iāve been using for 3 weeks) is soooo nice, as is this which iāve been using on and off for a month but the price point was set by the us national debt clock or something. (their instagram clickbait lip balm thing is a waste of money and yes i wasted my money!) also i love this and have used since it launched :)
ok ty for reading come again bye!
