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Lifetrap Test

Your lifetrap is: Multiple Lifetraps

You appear to have multiple, equally prominent lifetraps. It is possible that you have several lifetraps that are all strongly expressed and which co-exist in you. But, on the other hand, it is also possible that one of these lifetraps is your primary one and that the others merely accentuate it. We are unable to say. For the same reason, we are also incapable of giving you a more personalized description. But you can consult the charts below in order to see which lifetraps you scored the strongest on.

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Your primary feeling is one of pressure. You feel as if you can never relax and enjoy life. That you must always push to get ahead. For you, life is only doing. It is having to work or achieve all the time. You feel frustrated and irritated with yourself for not meeting your own high standards.

Physical stress is common with you. You may have headaches, digestion or bowel problems, as well as high blood pressure and/or insomnia. At root, you probably feel chronically angry, but with no apparent object to direct that anger towards. Instead of staying with that anger, you channel it outwards to your surroundings. Everything has to be perfect. You need to feel in control.

Most likely you are successful. But you rarely stop and enjoy your success. The balance between work and pleasure feels lopsided. You turn many forms of activity into work and it enslaves you. You seem to have lost touch with your basic self. You go through the motions, but no longer know what makes you happy.

One of your parents may have used shame or criticism when you failed to meet their high expectations. As an adult, you feel you cannot let go of your need for perfect order, achievement, or status. But your excessively high standards are in fact impinging on your quality of life. You are successful, but not fulfilled. You need to learn that you can lower your standards without feeling like a failure.

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“Things are better this way...”

Your primary feeling is one of loneliness. You feel excluded from the rest of the world because you feel undesirable and/or different. As a child, it is likely that you felt inferior to other children because of some observable quality (e.g. looks, height, etc.). It is possible that you were rejected or humiliated as a child. Now you feel you have nothing to offer in relationships.

You feel different or inferior to the people around you. You exaggerate the differences between you and others and minimize the similarities. You feel lonely, even when you are around people. At work or in school, you are on the periphery. You are likely to keep to yourself.

You are nervous and self-conscious around others. You cannot just relax and be yourself. You worry about doing or saying the wrong thing. You do not let most people see the unconventional parts of you. You have a secret life or feelings that you believe would lead other people to humiliate or reject you if they knew. You have never accepted certain parts of yourself because you think other people would think less of you if they knew them. You compare yourself to other people who have the hallmarks of popularity that you think you lack. In this way, you keep sending yourself the message that you will never be accepted for who you truly are.

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You have a fundamental belief that you will lose the people you love and be left emotionally isolated. Whether you imagine that they will die, send you away, or leave you, somehow you feel that it is inevitable that you will be left alone. You expect to be abandoned, and you see the state of loneliness as the default condition in your life. In your heart, you feel it is your destiny to live completely alone. You often read the intent to abandon you into even innocent remarks made by others. Anything that feels like others have disengaged can trigger these fears in you, even if there is no actual danger. Once triggered, you tend to go through a cycle of negative emotions – anger, grief, and fear.

People with abandonment can be alone for long periods of time. They might withdraw from close relationships out of hurt, or out of fear of being hurt again. Many have already faced loneliness as children and know they can survive it. Loneliness is not the issue. Rather, it is the process of separation that is devastating – that is, having a connection and then losing it, only to be thrown back into loneliness once more.

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Lifetrap Test

Your lifetrap is:

Multiple Lifetraps

You appear to have multiple, equally prominent lifetraps. It is possible that you have several lifetraps that are all strongly expressed and which co-exist in you. But, on the other hand, it is also possible that one of these lifetraps is your primary one and that the others merely accentuate it. We are unable to say. For the same reason, we are also incapable of giving you a more personalized description. But you can consult the charts below in order to see which lifetraps you scored the strongest on.

Tagged by: @eligos-venator​

Lifetrap Test

Your lifetrap is: Defectiveness

The emotion most recurring in you is shame. Shame is what you feel when your defects are exposed. You will do almost anything to avoid this shame. Consequently you go to great lengths to keep your defectiveness hidden. You feel that your defectiveness is inside you and not immediately observable. You feel like you have to pretend to be someone you are not to be accepted. You hide your true self to fit in, but that also means that many people in your life will never know the real you.

At your core you feel completely unworthy of love. It is possible that you struggle with feelings of depression – a kind of low-level depression always lurking in the background. You may be drawn to partners who are critical of you and put you down. They generate high chemistry, but reinforce your feelings of defectiveness.

It is likely that you spend a lot of time comparing yourself unfavorably to others and feel inadequate as a result. You feel like an impostor when you are successful. You are anxious that you cannot maintain your success. Your sense of well-being is fragile, and even small setbacks or failures may be enough to make you nervous and stressed. To feel humiliated and inadequate, as if the whole world is about to catch sight of your defectiveness.

[Mun note: Taking this as Rain was something that.. was not easy to do, mostly because Rain is a large part of my personality. The fact that this describes everything about her down to a T is scary and it’s even more scarier because as someone who has her own issues, this hits closer to home then I thought.]