#leadwithcompassion

Restore vitality - Have a good ecosystem of both giving and receiving. Make sure you don’t block either! 🙃

We’re made to exist among a community, to depend on others and have thriving social circles, but more and more we’ve been adopting a more isolated approach that’s not natural and leads to a lot of the reasons, ironically, that promote further disconnection both physiological and psychological.

Being part of the flow of giving and receiving, trusting you know how to meet your needs as well as expressing them is vital. Trusting yourself to lay boundaries out of love rather than scarcity and fear is vital. Trusting yourself to support and be there for others, able to meet their needs is also vital. Giving restores your vitality and energy as much as receiving, or even more at times. Out of balance on either, you dull your own light.

Why, despite living conditions being on average far above what they’ve been in most of our human history, we have potentially a lot more depression, anxiety and other states? When we have more comfort and opportunities, more time to spend on things other than solely survival, why are we lacking so much energy when we get home? Why are we isolating ourselves when that’s biologically not healthy for us?

Think about that?

Here are 4 common characteristics of the 4 attachment styles.

1. SECURE 2. ANXIOUS 3. FEARFUL AVOIDANT 4. DISMISSIVE AVOIDANT

Those with secure attachment style at the moment, can offer support without feeling depleted and can receive support without pushing it away. They have a good eco-system of giving and receiving in their relationships. Their actions aren't driven by scarcity or fear.

Which one can you identify with?

Get comfortable with who you are at this moment and know nothing is set. Our brain can reprogram itself and we can choose our future.

How To Spoil Your Horse

Will we ever stop telling long-winded horse stories? No chance. We are besotted with horses; we need horse friends because who else could stand the ongoing chatter? We talk about how we found them, and how far they have come. We tell stories about epic trail rides and how they came apart at a clinic. We detail health issues and best practices for care. How beautiful they trot or how many miles…

We aren’t kids anymore. That’s the complaint. Riding seems easier in memory. When we were younger, riding was rose-colored and sweet. We don’t remember training issues, just wandering around in the sun. If you were bareback, you remember the feel of their flanks; of their warm coat under your naked knees. We wore shorts. Maybe the horse took you anyplace hewanted to go but that was just fine.…

Part One: My Horse Betrayed Me.

  I hear lots of horror stories in my line of work. “My horse just started bucking, for no good reason.” “He was flying like a kite on the end of my lead rope.” “One minute he was walking next to me and the next, I had smashed toes, my head knocked sideways, and he was running away.” In that instant, your horse goes from being your soulmate to guilty of conspiracy to commit murder. Slightly less…