#lackof

In 15 years of hospital visits, having my legs measured was the consultation. After a few years you begin to think there’s nothing else wrong.

Throughout that time I also didn’t think I needed to look outside the box because there seemed to be no cause for concern from my doctors or family. When I look back of course, I can’t believe that I was continually being exposed by the very people who were supposed to protect me and those who were supposed to care for me.

With a lack of trust and honesty and many decades on, I have made it my way to find out what I should have known as a child. With each yearly consultation, my father was asked whether he had any concerns and when that wasn’t forthcoming, my legs were measured, then we were asked to make another appointment for the next year.

Over the years I was misled into thinking there was nothing much wrong with me, apart from what you could see; a lack of muscle tone, a foot drop and a leg length difference. I was also in a vicious circle; the more my emotions manifested in anger issues, the more I continued to get blamed because I was angry.

I have created my own circumstances through my blog and that allows me to talk about my experiences and to find a place for those. Through countless perceptions, memories and a full understanding of my circumstances, I am able to tell my story in the way my life has unfolded and right a wrong on all my experiences.

Whilst I cannot change my experiences, my blogs act as a reminder that there is always a message, a silver lining, and a way through our experiences.

The lack of civility in society means something is seriously wrong. We must want to bring ourselves closer together. We must want to show concern, we must have tolerance and be tolerant, be caring, empathetic, patient and understanding.

We must learn to take judgment and criticism out of everyday conversations, particularly where the ego is concerned. The ego is the reason for most of our difficulties, when it’s played out on the centre stage, in our personal relationships and in our lives.

Civility brings people together. It encourages people to productively work together around any common goals. But civility is essential if our lives are going to change. Where there is hostility and conflict those must be replaced with respect and consideration through a wider understanding of what is expected through our common values.

If done correctly, civility brings people and communities together and helps us form meaningful friendships and relationships. Civility goes beyond us having manners and gives us and our lives purpose. Civility ties us into a lifestyle that helps more than just us, it helps those around us too, in the wider community. We will begin to care more about things, about people, about life.

Civility reminds us that even with different points of view we can still work together for the greater good, through understanding and compromise. With civility, we have duties not only through society and politics, but in the wider world.

We need to make sure and continue to make sure we work towards a common goal that will benefit each of us, through society and in the world. We need it more than we’ve ever needed it. Lives are depending on it.