#kryptonite lover

You can’t trust them.

In any close relationship, trust is essential—this goes double for an established friendship. But if you have a confidant who you can't share important information with, trust could be an issue, Elridge says. “If you find yourself not being able to trust a friend—their intentions, their word, their confidentiality—check the status of your friendship.” Did Kara reveal who she is? No. Also “Friendships are built on trust. After all, if you can’t rely on your BFF, what’s the point of having one? So, Bonior says, "If you don't trust that they have your best interests in mind... that's often a sign that something's not working."

The last ep of season 4 suggest that Lena had bad intentions and she probably plots a revenge.  The tea is – Kara doesn’t trust Lena enough to inform her who she is and is AFRAID of Lena’s reaction.

You’re giving more than you’re getting.

If your friend always seems to need your help, but can’t return even the smallest favor, then chances are they’re toxic. You can tell, Bonior says, when "there's a big imbalance between what you're giving and what you're getting." Case in point: that friend who always monopolizes the conversation with what's going on in her life.

When was the last time Kara turned to Lena for help? Remember when Lena visited “sick Kara”, brought her soup and then started to talk about James? Exactly.

Lack empathy

They don't feel your pain.

Remember when Lena used her position of power and forced Kara to do her job? Oh yes, she is a business women and she needs to take care of her company, because of course Kara doesn’t writing that article would have hurt Lena’s business. And good to know her money are more important than Kara :)

You know they talk sh*t about you

While “there's a spectrum of talking about people behind their back,” according to Bodior, if your friendship is starting to resemble an episode of the Real Housewives, it’s probably toxic. The key, she says, is knowing if your friend is speaking out of genuine concern for your best interests or not.

Aka Lena talking shit about Supergirl to Kara in the end of season 3. Yeah, her stans will say Lena didn’t know Kara is Supergirl, but a) Lena called Supergirl her friend when it suited her before and even built her a freaking statue, b) it doesn’t change that Lena talked shit about Kara. Also, if you think Lena would have not trashed Kara like that, even if she had known who Supergirl was, then lol, you don’t know Lena Snowflake Luthor at all. And friendly reminder it’s because Kara doesn’t trust Lena enough.

You don’t think they have good intentions

Well, Kara doesn’t, but we know Lena is pissed off, “hurt” and evil ;3

You make excuses for them

When a friend is known for their bad behavior, they put you into the uncomfortable position of justifying their actions to others—and that’s toxic.

Classic SC relationship with Kara always making excuses for Queen Lena. And remember how Kara broke a guard’s arm basically for Lena?

They're freeloaders

They take advantage of your generosity and give nothing in return. They can stay at your house for months or years without chipping in for groceries, or even offering a thank-you.

When Lena talked with Kara about Mon-El? After SIX MONTHS and only because Lena bought CatCo to… clear her name. But she brought soup when Kara was sicks! Yeah, and then started talk about herself.

They're judgmental

They pass harsh and critical judgment based on their own ideas. They're not open to hearing your version of the story – did Lena EVER listen to Supergirl or Kara?

You don't know why you're friends with them

Once upon a time, you two were inseparable. But now, you feel like you're on two different planets. While your priorities evolved and changed over the years, your friendship—not so much. "Just because you have a history with this person doesn’t mean you need to have a future together," says Lombardo. "...You are not responsible for this person’s happiness, and you will not be able to change them (no matter how much you wish you could)."

Guess what? It’s not Kara’s job to make Lena happy, it’s not Kara’s job to make Lena good, it’s not Kara’s job to keep Lena from harming others. Also, what Lena gives to Kara? What Kara takes from this so called friendship, besides the fact it makes her a liar. Supercorp friendship is ONE-SIDED :)

You have to be careful around them

Does it always feel like you’re walking on eggshells, afraid of saying or doing something that will make them fly off the handle? Classic sign.

Why Kara doesn’t criticize or points Lena’s character flaws out? Right, because Supergirl knows Lena will throw a tantrum.

They won’t stop criticizing you

When a friend is always judging you, it can do a number on your self-esteem. Somebody who constantly belittles you and points out your flaws—we all have them!—might not have your best interests at heart.

Lena and her classic “you have a god complex”. But ok, ok, Lena did praise Superigirl. She even founded a statue of her… and then she said she has a god complex or that big amazing tantrum from s4 when Superigirl again pointed out the harun-el issue.

All you do is talk about them

An important part of friendship is give and take; sometimes you’re going to need some extra TLC, and sometimes they will. But if your friendship is consistently lopsided and solely focused on their needs there might be a problem. “If you notice that you’re always the one counseling, loaning, or saving in the relationship, then that friendship has the potential to be toxic.

Again, when Kara went to Lena to talk about her personal problems? And unfriendly reminder about the “sorry I didn’t talk to you about your boyfriend who had to leave  Earth six months ago but I had better shit to do”.

They're energy vampires

Healthy relationships leave you feeling emotionally fulfilled. Not so with a toxic ones. “You’ll leave an interaction with a toxic friend feeling drained,” Elridge says. “This could be because of the drama they bring, or because of the heavy lifting you have to do with them without any reciprocal support.”

“Friendships should provide daily bouts of joy in your life. What a friendship should not bring in to your life is stress,” says Tammy Shaklee, relationship expert and founder of H4M Matchmaking. “It should not leave you feeling anxious, obsessed, or drained.”

Classic Supercorp :)

Everything is always super dramatic.

Of course, life is not without its ups and downs. It’s only normal that drama will pop up…but if a friend seems to thrive on that drama and is constantly sucking you into it, it may be cause for concern.

Lena’s life is a constant drama and she drags Kara into it.

You never have a chance to speak

Hi Lena, it’s so nice of you to bring me a soup when I’m sick and I’m so happy we can talk about your relationship problems with James, I love you :))))) Hey, Lena I need to confess I’m Supergirl, but ok, let’s listen to your constant man’s pain :)

Deliberate Humiliation

Gentle teasing is part of many good friendships, but being shamed in public is another story.

Lena and her you have a god complex said with venom in front of DEO agents. And then in front of Alex in s4.

An Inconsistent Personality

Everyone experiences different moods, and of course, you can’t expect all of your friends to constantly be in a good mood. On the other hand, if you have a Jekyll and Hyde friend who is joyful one might and furious at you the next, you’re in an unhealthy dynamic that’s hazardous to your mental health.  

Lena turns from your best friend to GO DO YOUR JOB in a second.

Emotional Blackmail

Toxic friends often withhold affection or support depending on the circumstances. This is because their love is conditional and highly based on what you can do for them. So, if you say you can’t go to a social event then the friend may refuse to take your calls, or be cold in conversation until you change your mind.

Or they will threaten to fire you :)

Blame

Everyone makes mistakes in relationships. Good friends can apologize for their part in such arguments or other clashes.

Lena never apologized :)

They're liars

They habitually lie with every intention to deceive you. They tell improbable stories which you know are far from the truth.

This goes for Kara. But it goes for Lena now, after the sweet finale of season 4. Alsom she lied about harun-el and kryptonite. And didn’t say a shit

They're resentful

Because some idiots think her murdering depressed, driven by guilt and suicidal guy was perfectly fine :)

The possibility of death was higher than 40%, while it should have not been higher than1% (or even less)

Medical research studies are divided into different stages, called phases. For drug testing, these are defined by the FDA. There are four phaes, Lena did ONE, created by HER.

NO TEESTING ON ANIMALS, she jumped from killing hearts to killing people.

No reasearch TEAM, no supervision

She was baised chosing the subject, also ignored his mental condition

No comparison group

Experiment was done in her private, secret laboratory

The protocol for a clinical trial should be reviewed by an independent ethical review committee. The researchers must report any serious adverse events to this committee - HA HA HA

The design of all studies should be publicly available.

Investigations should be ceased if the risks are found to outweigh the potential benefits -HA HA HA

Her experiment was not about curing people, but making them superpowered aka it was a MILITARY shit.

She was testing if for what? One month?

Signing a paper and agreement not immediatelly makes shit legal

SHE FUCKING FED ADAM WITH FAST FOOD JUST BEFORE GIVING HIM THE SERUM

More info, pics and sources under the cut

Mon-El and his story was tightly tied to Kara. To her growth, changing, becoming something more. Learning. Forgiving. Being hurt. Being pissed off.  Making mistakes, being wrong etc. Mon-El was important, because he was a part of Kara’s story and HER character development.

While Lena’s story is only about HER. Her story, her snowflake Luthor’s pain, her mommy issues, her ego. Lena scenes have NOTHING to do with Kara. Kara is only, yes my dear salty assholes, a BACKGROUND for Lena’s story. Get rid of Kara or put any other character in her shoes (Clark for example) - nothing will change. NOTHING.

This is called stealing the show. This is called stealing the scenes. This is called overshadowing THE MAIN HERO OF THE SHOW.

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The way they are murdering themselves is splendid :)

Humiliating or embarrassing you - I will scream at you in DEO in front of DEO agents to show what a hypocrite with big ego you are.

Constant put-downs - We are not friends Supergirl >;( . PS Minus the time when my ass is on fire and I need your help.

Hypercriticism - How’s your GOD COMPLEX, Supergirl? Did you feed it well today? :)))

Refusing to communicate - Why should I contact Supergirl and talk about Sam, who obviously has something in common with Supergirl’s enemy? Naaah! Why I should I talk to Kara about her 6-months lost boyfriend? I’m sure she is ok. Why I should tell Supergirl about Kryptonite? Or that I’m fixing Lex? Or telling Kara I ACCIDENTALLY killed a boy during my illegall exepriments? NAAAH :)

Ignoring or excluding you - I won’t ask Supergirl for help :( She is mean :( And said bad stuff about my Kryptonite fetish :(

Use of sarcasm and unpleasant tone of voice - Every timeSupergirl or Kara say something what I don’t like, I answer with nice, polite, calm voice and I don’t say they should fuck off becasue they don’t understand my hurt feelings of privileged white woman :)

Extreme moodiness - Awww, Kira ;3 It’s so good to see you after erm... 5 months? How are you? I love you, you are my bestie.... PUT YOUR CRAP TOGETHER AND MAKE ME SOME MONEY! THIS IS BUSINESS! DO YOUR JOB OR I WILL FIRE YOU >;(

Mean jokes or constantly making fun of you - God complex :)

Saying things like “If you don’t __(do your job)___, I will__(fire you)___.”

Domination and control. I will just produce tonnes of kryptonite... for scientific reasons :))))

Withdrawal of affection. Supergirl look at your statute I financed! :)))) Go away, I don’t like you :( Kara! I bought CatCo, we can work togehter! :))) Go and do your job :(

You find yourself apologizing even when you know you’ve done nothing wrong.  You are mean, Supergirl :( I didn’t do anything wrong! :( APOLOGIZE :(((((

Making everything your fault - it’s your fault I stole Kryptonite, did some illegall experiments and killed Adam. Lex? your fault. Global warming? Your fault.

Threatening to commit suicide if you leave.Boo hoo hoo! All people are mean and betray me, you are my only friend :( Kara you are the only person who stops me from killing people, boo hoo hoo.