what is kky's dynamic because ive seen people say its sketchy in general? like somewhat inappropriate. whats ur opinion on this since u ship it
Personally, I donât view it as âsketchyâ whatsoever, especially not in an overall sense. Maybe in ultra specific cases - like gross people portraying it in a specific and purposefully bad way (will address this at different points) - but thatâs due to the individual being gross, not the ship on its own.
I get people wanting to be cautious, and I commend that! But my take on KKY is: itâs absolutely fine, and not anything we donât already see in other ships like SNS or KKG or KKOB. Hereâs why.
For one, they first meet when theyâre both kids; a very short time after the nine-tails attack. Itâd be a different story if they met when Yamato was still a kid and Kakashi was already an adult, but that very much isnât the case here. This - in addition to the fact that they are both already adults in their 20â˛s with a small 3 year age gap - makes this a fairly safe ship as far as their ages alone go.
(Note: I say âin addition toâ because both of these factors must be present for the ship to be sound. They need to have met while in the same age group and currently be adults. KK*ta are both adults in canon, but they met when Itachi was a child and Kakashi was already an adult, which has very bad implications about the foundation of that ship. One of the factors is missing, which is why itâs gross ship with bad implications. This does not happen with KKY.)
The only way to make this aspect weird would be if an individual intentionally chose to specifically go and portray them in a shippy way during the very brief time period where Kakashi had turned into an adult and Yamato was still a kid. Itâd be the same case for, say, GaaLee, and intentionally portraying the time period where Lee would be 18 and Gaara would still be 16/17 in a shippy way. Which, again, would be the fault of the individual, and not something inherently bad about the ship. Aside from these portrayals done by individuals, the ships themselves are sound.
One other thing I can definitely get people being cautious about is that Kakashi was Yamatoâs direct superior for a time. However, Kakashi is also Gaiâs superior when he is Hokage (this also applies to SNS), and he was Obitoâs superior for a time as well. So, while I get being cautious about power dynamics (as one should be), unless you also denounce SNS, KKG, and KKOB for the same reason (which, if you do, thatâs an okay line to draw for yourself imo), the excuse falls flat and comes off as hypocritical. Plus, thereâs plenty of time periods where Kakashi is simply a respected colleague and no longer a direct superior to Yamato in any way.
I would also like to note that this sort of dynamic is much more of a case-by-case scenario than people tend to realize or want to acknowledge. Itâs something where you need to think critically and ask yourself if there are lines being crossed. Is this power imbalance used outside of professional settings, and/or to harmful ends? Is someone portraying these dynamics as very unbalanced and harmful? Is the imbalance contributing to a lack of mutual respect? If the answer is âNo.â itâs fine. Thatâs why people still ship SNS and KKG, even though one of them being the Hokage creates a power imbalance. Because people have thought critically and can see the dynamic isnât being used to harm the other character in the context of these ships. The same thing applies to KKY.
The last thing people would need to be cautious about is - all else removed - how they treat each other. This one gets a SOLID pass; their interactions are probably some of the funniest and most natural and healthy in the entire series, honestly. Thereâs virtually nothing to criticize here. Theyâre colleagues that have known each other for about half their lives and have extreme trust in/respect for each other, and arenât afraid to speak their minds to each other. You canât really find much of a fault here, especially if you also ship much more complicated (and at times straight up unhealthy) ships like SNS (yes kings, messily unpack your traumas, have codependency issues).
Anyways! TL;DR: Iâm not going to blame anyone for being super extra cautious about any ship. Itâs always ALWAYS important to think critically about media you consume and create, which of course includes any ships you have. I encourage you to do your own thinking about everything Iâve said and anything others have to say, and reach your own conclusion.
MY conclusion after critically thinking about it is: KKY cute. I think they should kiss.