Lately, I’ve been reading a lot of facebook stories regarding cheating and adultery. First of all, ano bang napapala niyong mga lalaki sa pambababae niyo? Do your manhood grow twice as big? Are you satisfied seeing your wife/girlfriend blinded by love, while you’re doing your own little dirty thing with your “kabit” ha? And these “other girls” who act like they were also victims, shame on you. Don’t we have this thing called BACKGROUND CHECK before agreeing to meet someone and worst, spreading your legs? Here’s the thing, let’s not be idiots and try to fool anyone. You’re responsible for your own actions, so don’t claim yourself as a victim, if you can have control over the situation and had a chance to reverse or avoid it.
I, myself, experienced being courted by a guy who’s currently in a relationship. Almost I mean. That was for about a month of late night talks and flirting. Why did it only last for a month? Because I know how to do background check and research before anything else. It was right after he asked me if he could court me, when I found out (myself) that he already has a girlfriend. I have to admit, he’s all I ever wanted. He’s handsome, funny, smart and yeah he’s a Civil Engineer. Who would say no to that? Zy would. I confronted him the moment I knew about his long term relationship. His answer in return?
“Oo matagal na kami, pero ikaw na gusto ko. Hindi ko maintindihan pero mas gusto kong ikaw ang kausap at kasama. Ikaw nga kausap ko everyday, siya hindi na.”
Of course I didn’t buy that haha. I immediately cut all ties and told him, “A few months ago, I’ve been cheated by my boyfriend. Hindi ako nagkulang ikwento sayo how hurt I was. Now, this is I get in return? Balak mo pa ako gawing kabit?”
So after telling him to stop, he didn’t. I stopped replying on his ig and fb messages, but he continuously flooded me on iMessage. I even blocked him, but he has his ways. Ganda ko kasi amp. Even after all his efforts to make me feel that I’m the one he likes, I never talked to him anymore. Instead, I entertained other guys (because it’s as easy as that lol). Eventually, he also stopped (napagod si gag*) and a few months after, we became friends. Until now, going strong sila ng girlfriend niya, and I’m happy for them, proud of my self at the same time because I prevented a relationship from being ruined.
I know my worth and for a moment, being “almost kabit” hurt my ego. Why was I strong enough to let go of a “good catch” guy? ‘Cause I’m totally aware of what I deserve, and I’m a hundred percent confident that there are still a lot of guys who can like me.
Now here’s a wrap up question to all of you:
“If I could avoid this situation, why can’t other girls do as well? Ganon ba kayo kauhaw sa lalaki?”