So I keep asking a few of my friends if it’s okay to ask a guy out for coffee in a platonic friend way (background, I’m a cishet girl at the kind of bible college where relationships happen quickly and half of the graduating class gets married at the end of the year and gossip spreads very quickly.)
See, back at the campus we used to be at, our small class was all kind of close, and I was louder and more outspoken and he literally never talks but now we’re at a larger campus and there’s only thirteen of us from our original class here, and I’ve gone towards many more of my introverted tendencies since I came here, and I feel like I need more friends.
So this guy never leaves his dorm except meals and classes, but we’re in offset classes so we’re never in the same place at the same time, and we don’t have the same lunch period, and he’s the breakfast dish crew leader so I can’t really talk to him at breakfast, and I can’t talk to him at dinner because I’m not at dinner half the time and since his brother is super popular he is always with the populars from our old class and I feel miserable when I’m around them, so I can’t talk to him at all then.
I should also add that I’m 99% sure he has a severe social anxiety, to the point where he was able to get out of a required public speaking course, and I’ve maybe only heard him speak 7 times.
I just really want to be his friend and go out and talk with him, but my friends here are like “Everyone is gonna think you’re dating” and one of them asked if I like him, and I told her I wouldn’t be disappointed if something happened and she was like “oh, girl, ask him!” But I don’t wanna ask him out!
Have I talked enough about his brother? His brother and I have been rivals since three weeks after we started first semester, and we make a point of roasting, pranking, and insulting each other when we can, or, at least, I do, but his class is offset from mine so our rivalry is drifting apart, but there’s still a grudge and such. Him and his brother are like Buzz Lightyear and Woody or something (an actual way the brother once described it) and they’re great friends but I don’t get along with the brother. Also the brother is dating my former roommate and since they started dating she’s also been drifting from me, (she ALSO has the offset classes and I never see her either) so I just think he won’t want to talk to me
Also when I’m nervous I end up rambling and I really don’t want to scare him but I also don’t want to ask because we literally never talk to each other, so what what what do I do???
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