#intuitive expert

Often, you hear Mom and I speak of the necessity of coaching yourself, and may wonder what it entails, or how to get there from where you currently are? The process is one of developing your own, possibly latent, inner tools.  As the Intuition Girl, Joan Marie Whelan oven says, “determination, self-discipline, motivation and a strong desire to change for the better are most definitely part of the mix.”   I also believe that it requires a level of self-trust and discernment that exists within the ability of all of us.  It may need to be developed and practiced frequently so to allow you to be able to make clear choices. Our ability to trust our intuition, our gut feelings and our heart often goes unnoticed and is under-developed as we tend to focus 0n the outer world while completely ignoring our own Inner World and our need for self-improvement and self-preservation.  As you begin to build trust in your innate abilities, take it from my daughter, the intuitive expert, who states: you will find that you are more alert and aware of the messages and insights around you when you begin to “Tap into your Intuition”.  Coaching yourself is simply your desire to remain alert and in tune with your heart and mind as you begin to hear and identify your Higher-Inner Voice.  You will become better prepared to differentiate between that soft voice, your intuition,  and your own ego ramblings and critic and pay attention to the information presented to you. 

As a relationship expert, I am here to say that “Self-empowerment” is the key!

 “You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection.” – Buddha

Love is indeed a splendorous thing — but what it boils down to is being able to find the love within yourself to restore the harmony and balance to your authentic self.

Deep within the core of your very existence is the special coding of whom you are — this is your authentic self. It’s that part of your being, which is free from all external influences and inhibitions. When you learn how to love yourself unconditionally, you are able to reconnect with your intuitive soul power; which is in essence, your authentic self. Why reconnect with your intuitive soul power, because it is the direct link to the Universal flow of energy that guides all things living. We are all a part of this beautiful Energy Source; and when we realize the value and nature of its worth, the more compelled we are to achieve greatness in life.

If you truly want to empower yourself to heal your life on various levels, you first must learn to love yourself! I am going to discuss a few ways that you can empower your authentic self so you can begin to trust your gut feeling, your intuition and begin making the best choices for your life. As an Intuitive expert, I know what I am about to suggest will be most helpful to you in transforming your life for the better. 

Feed your mind with empowering thoughts, ideas and visions. Life is energy and so is love; and the more love you feed yourself, the happier you will be. Instead of focusing on negative energy in your life, think about the many blessings that exist around you. 

Surely where you are, there must be nature. And even if all else has gone awry, there is positive energy that can be found in nature. Find a quiet park, stream, or fishing hole. Look around yourself. Nature will provide you with the inspiration you need to move beyond the negativity. Whether it’s an image in your mind or a real-time view of an aging oak tree or a passing flock of seagulls, observe the wonder and beauty of every aspect in these living things.

Focus on the outline of your eye’s object. Notice the color, the shape, the size, the feel, the scent. What do you see, what do you smell, how does it feel to the touch? In these last few seconds, I am certain that all negative thoughts were pushed to the wayside. You have fed your mind with empowering thoughts – positive thoughts that transcend negativity. Nature = love. Personal and emotional empowerment is love. When you empower your mind with positive energy, it will send a vibrational signal to every cell in your body and to every living thing in your energy field.   This is transformational! This is healing your life at the most basic root.  That is absolute power at work! It’s phenomenal.

What is absolute power? Have you hugged your dog, your child, or close friend? When you embrace, there is a great force of energy that is exchanged. This mutual energy is healthy and allows your body to arrive at a natural state of total relaxation. That’s a wonderful feeling — not having to worry about why, who, what, where, when…simply being in the present moment of love. That same feeling is what your authentic self provides you. This is your uninhibited, natural source of love. Hug more, touch more, and be in touch with the abundance of love.

Self-Forgiveness. I know, it’s hard to let go sometimes; but this is absolutely critical to rediscovering and empowering the love of your authentic self. A lot of times, we harbor resentment and anger from past emotions and encounters. Even when others may have caused distress, it is still by choice that we continue to preserve these negative feelings. We have to look beyond the anger, intolerance, and any other animosity to overcome hurdles in our lives. Breathe, slowly – inhale, exhale. Repeat this exercise a few times. Can you feel the negative air clearing your head? It is. Don’t hold onto it anymore. You don’t need it. In fact, you have now taken one of the essential steps to improving your vitality and getting reconnected to your authentic self. As a relationship expert, I can truly say that all healthy relationships start with self. With each breath you inhale, I want you to visualize the absolute power of love’s energy flowing into you and circulating through every part of your physical body. Build a healthy relationship with yourself and you will begin to draw to you, more healthy situations individuals and circumstances into your life. When you exhale, I want you to release all the negative, bent-up emotions. Got anger? Exhale it. Got regrets? Exhale it.  Got sadness?  Release it.

Do you want to transform your life? Want peace? Inhale it. Want love? Inhale it. Want freedom? Inhale it. Every time you breathe in, attach a positive word to it. When you breathe out, attach your negative baggage to it. That’s it. It is done. You have forgiven yourself and you are now ready to embrace love to its fullest extent.

We've all been at points in our lives where we've had an incredible brainstorm...and just like the storms on the horizon -- they blow into our lives and right back into the abyss. We seem to misread or ignore the signs of opportunity and let them pass away with the wind.  Opportunities appear in our lives all the time, but it is our responsibility to stay in tune with our intuitive abilities and become our own best intuitive expert.  Instead of grabbing the sails and flowing with the currents that nature gives us, we choose to circumvent the atmospheric conditions; retreating to our "safe haven." We tend to be most comfortable with what is familiar to us rather than break through the barriers and work towards reaching our highest potential.   Sometimes, we must rediscover the pulse of energetic lightening provided by the Universal flow of energy and get into the rhythm of its magnetic and powerful force of inspiration. We are capable of reaching our highest potential as long as we are willing to do the work to get us to that level of visualization and creative imagination. Below are five tips on how to turn your creative visions into reality:

 1.  Electromagnetism. When you get a sudden brainstorm, close your eyes and let your intuition take flight.  Don't let your creative thought processes evaporate into thin air.  Scientifically speaking, it's a matter of electromagnetism.  When your life force, or life energy is in the presence and motion of positively charged energy (or creative brainstorming), it is affected by that energetic force. This inspires and enables you to change your pace and create the vision you want in your life. Another way to look at this remarkable energy force is through the metaphorical eye of a compass needle.  Imagine that you are that compass needle.  When the current from an energy source is switched on (your intuition), you (or the compass needle) discover that magnetic fields will radiate from all side of you.  You become the pulse of the current; which allows energy to pass through you, into you, and all around you.  If you harness the power of positive Universal flow of energy, envision the positive relationship that you will have in the world around you. For just a moment, let scientific reasoning be your mentor by following these logical clues to achieving greatness in your life.  Then you are truly on the path to reaching your highest potential.

 2. Become your own intuitive expert! Practice using your intuition!  Okay, I told you to let your intuition take flight...now you must put your intuitive soul into action for you.  You know that electromagnetism is part of the science of the Universal flow of energy -- now you must facilitate it to your best advantage.  When your creative juices begin to flow, you know that you are on the right track.  Stay ON track!  Don't slip from the rails because of fear or lack of self-confidence.  You have all the mental tools at your disposal to turn your normal life into an extraordinary life. That’s why it is so important to stay true to yourself and be willing to open your mind to the potential that surrounds you.  By tapping into your intuition, you are creating an infinite gateway of positive thoughts and energy flow.  The combination of the Universal flow of energy with your intuition is the key to manifesting the reality you want to have in life.  It’s not rocket science to believe that if you can dream it, you can achieve it.  Remember, nothing is impossible – only the impossibilities that we create in our own minds.  Isn’t it time you let your conscience be your guide? Go with your gut feeling and supersede all your expectations.  It will happen.

 3. Self-discipline.  It's sometimes hard to become and stay motivated, but in order to turn your creative visions into reality, you must have self-discipline.  This is the essential key to make your life an extraordinary life.  You already have the forces of the Universal flow of energy working for you.  You know that you can grab the sails and let your intuition be your guide -- the rest of your journey depends on how much you want to turn your visions into reality.  If your ideal lifestyle is comprised of a nice two-story home, a family, and a job you love -- than you must have self-discipline to achieve your goals.  If you don’t have the self-discipline to get up to go to work in the morning, you won’t be able to pay the rent or mortgage.  The same principle applies to all areas of your life; which includes your mind, body, and spirit. There has to be a level of self-discipline to overcome any imbalances – including emotional baggage and blockages.  The more you stick with your strategic plan for success; chances are that you will bring your goals to fruition.  That means you must discipline yourself by calming your spirit, being good to your physical body, and taking control of your thoughts and what you project to the outside world.  You are an integral part of this Universe – the more you begin to realize the value of your life and the interconnection you have with the world around you and the energetic flow of the Universe, the better equipped you are mentally, spiritually, and emotionally to generate the milestones you need to turn your creative visions into reality.

 4. Strategic Visioning.  I know -- I told you about creative visions, but now it's time to turn your creative visions into strategic visions.  That means you have to plan for success and turn your brainstorms into milestones.  Accomplish your goals by blueprinting your life map for extraordinary achievement. But before you can do this, you must have a strategic plan for your strategic vision.  This is your ultimate pathway to power; and implementation is part of the end result.  You must take action to achieve your goals.  As your own intuitive expert, this begins by accessing your intuitive wisdom and imagining all the positive things you'd like to acquire in life. When you meditate on your positive ideas and images, you can dramatically affect your electromagnetism to start drawing those things that you want toward you. The more you practice strategic visioning (focused meditation), the more you want it...the more you can taste it...the closer you get to accomplishing your dreams.  Remember, you are accountable for the commitments that you make; and through consistent action, you become the leader of your life and your future.

 5. Awakening your prospects.  Now that you've overcome your fears and lack of self-discipline to turn your creative visions into reality, you must awaken your prospects by exploring the positive environment that you have created for yourself.  You are now prepared to fish your prospects and take the appropriate action to reel in your treasure. No longer are you bound by mental hang-ups, and you have the clarity to see opportunities that surround you.  Tap into your intuitive powers and make a concerted effort to walk through the doors that are open to you.  Get your brainstorms moving by becoming proactive in your life. Failure and lack are consequences of your own actions or inactions.  Your mind is a powerful instrument that you can facilitate to create and manifest the outcome you desire…so get going! After all, life isn't life if you're not living it to the fullest extent. 

Life is like a roller coaster; it has many ups and downs but it is how we react to them that really matters. You will continually be challenged, and thoughts will surface that cause you to doubt and ask yourself, “what if” this or that doesn’t work out!  Our minds like to play tricks on us, however, it is your responsibility to empower yourself and choose to feed your mind with positive words, thoughts, and beliefs that will put a spark in your step, some joy in your heart and a smile on your face.

You, like each one of us, has a responsibility to feed your mind with all those things that will improve your outlook and show you how to feel empowered, encouraged and full of possibilities. 

Don’t miss the new things that are being prepared for you!  Choose to hang around with those who uplift you, who are forward thinking and who look at life and their world in a positive and upbeat way.  The wrong people can talk you out of your dreams and feed you with doom and gloom. Become your own intuitive expert and follow your gut feelings.  If something doesn’t feel right, that might be your signal or clue to slow down and follow another path.

You have dreams that are ready to be brought into your reality.  It’s time to stoke your passion, energize your mind and awaken your imagination so you are better prepared to empower yourself to break out of the limitations of your past and get excited about the new adventure you are about to explore. When things don’t go my way and I start to feel down or dejected, I immediately shift gears and think of something that will allow me to move into a state of gratitude.  There is always something to focus on that can and will shift our thoughts to the brighter side of life. Your intuition, your heart and inner knowingness are great resources that will help you change your attitude and focus, but it is your willingness to shift that is most vital.

If your life isn’t flowing maybe it means that that path is not your right path?  Don’t keep pushing for something that is not meant to be for you.  Feel into your heart and soul and welcome your intuition to help you move in the right direction.  It’s time to become your own intuitive expert and let your inner gut, your sixth sense, keep you on the right path.  Trust yourself, empower yourself and soon you will see the light.  Don’t let fear or worry take you out!  When you lean on your Creator and surrender to His plan, your life improves and shifts.

As most of you are aware, much of the civilized world is experiencing some kind of trouble.  Today, there are people from all walks of life, who are clinging to hope and prayers just to get through each day.  While things may appear troublesome, I want you to know that many of today's success stories have sprung from ingenuity and humble beginnings.  By his junior year in college, Microsoft giant, Bill Gates had trusted his intuition to know that one day computers would be an important part of everyday life. He became his own intuitive expert. That's when he committed his efforts to building the Microsoft Company nearly 35 years ago.  In fact, Microsoft Corp's website, states, "Gates' foresight and his vision for personal computing have been central to the success of Microsoft and the software industry."   Did Gates think that Time Magazine would ever have named him one of the 100 people who most influenced the 20th Century?  Perhaps we can't go that far, but because he had the "vision" and belief in his product, his life is among some of the many success stories of which we hear about today. 

 Other success stories, like Wal-Mart's Sam Walton, who grew up during the Great Depression, learned pivotal lessons in life to create success and wealth from a simple "Five and Dime" store.  But beyond the big names of Gates and Walton, there are other success stories of which we may not be aware.  Whether it's the pushcart operator's daughter, who was born and raised in Harlem like American Emmy Award and Academy Award-winner Cicely Tyson or a young man down the street starting his first lemonade stand to build an empire -- the world is your oyster; and all you have to do to achieve success is to have enough belief in yourself to know that you can achieve greatness if you put your heart, soul, and intuition behind it.

 Here are 5 good tips on how to pull yourself from your rut and make the best out of a desperate situation:

 1.  Moving forward. Before you go off the deep end with desperate thoughts (even suicide), I want you to reflect on what has landed you into the place you are at this exact moment. Are you there yet?  Okay, good. I want you to accept whatever it is that created this problem in your life -- don't worry if it was your fault or someone else's fault -- the fact of the matter is, that now is not the time to worry about "who" or "what" created the situation.  The only thing you are doing at this point is acknowledging the event or action.  Now that you've mentally acknowledged it, take a few slow, deep breaths. I want you to say aloud: "I am in control of my emotions. No matter what happens from this point on, I am going to be okay." Believe it. Now I want you to throw away all the negativity beyond this moment.  Whether you've lost your job, or you've recently ended a personal or professional relationship, now is not the time to dwell on "why" the particular outcome prevailed.  Instead, I want you to focus on moving forward. Remember, you have just made a healing pact with yourself to "be okay."  You will be.

 2. Using Your Intuition and becoming your own intuitive expert.  Now that you've mentally prepared yourself to move forward in your life to create your own success stories, you need to learn how to effectively use your intuition to manifest in your life the lifestyle you've always wanted. Too many times, we don't listen to what our intuition has to say to us.  And when we sometimes think we hear it, we misinterpret it.  The best way to fine-tune your intuition is to practice daily meditation.  You don't have to do it for hours on end, but you should devote at least five or 10 minutes of your morning, noon, or evening to breathing and meditation exercises that can help you rid your mind of toxic thoughts and to gain clarity.  Think of meditation as cardio for the mind.  The more you practice it, the more fine-tuned your intuition gets -- and the more fine-tuned it becomes; the more you are enabled to make smart choices in your life that will place you on the pathway to manifesting for your life all that you desire.

 3. Put Faith in Yourself.  Since you know that you must move forward and use intuition to achieve success in your life (in all areas of your life), you must also put faith in yourself and your actions.  If you don't believe in what you're doing, how can you achieve anything?  Just like Walton and Gates, they had products in what they believed.  The products weren't just material items; they were deep-seeded beliefs and principles in what they both envisioned.  When you start putting belief in what you produce -- whether it's a service or a material product, you have to trust that whatever you choose to do with it will work in your best interest. And this positive thinking applies to relationships as well.  If you believe that you can have a strong and productive relationship - both personally and professionally -- you will. 

 4. Discover your hidden gift. All individuals have a hidden gift.  For some, it may be carpentry.  For others, it may be painting, singing, writing, or mentoring -- among many others.  Whatever your gift is, you are the only person who can truly discover it and learn how to turn your gift into a money-maker for you. Always realize that your skill or talent is worth something to someone.  In someone else's eyes, your ability is key to not only your success, but to his or her success...or it may be just a central part of what makes the world more beautiful or healthy in which to coexist.  Whichever the case may be, your intuition and how you develop your intuitive talents is fundamentally important in discovering your gift and how to best use it to your advantage.

 5. Learning when to walk away.  Okay, there are some cases whereas your own intuitive expert, you know, that it's time to walk away from an unhealthy situation.  If you practice meditation, you've put faith in yourself, and you've moved forward in your life...and old habits are hard to die...then it's time to step out of this negative situation and find a new source of light in your life.  Some relationships can deteriorate your mindset.  When this starts to happen, you need to LISTEN TO YOUR GUT FEELING and move on.  That doesn't mean you're supposed to carry all the extra baggage with you when you go, either.  It simply means that you have evolved from this relationship; and in order for you to take control of your life and to manifest for your life health, happiness, and success, you acknowledge your feelings and move forward.