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What makes sex good?

Is it a big cock?

Or big tits?

Is sex the best with people who are well-groomed or have natural bodies, skinny, or voluptuous frames?

What makes sex memorable?

I think as we age, the answers to this question change. When I was younger, it was the thrill that excited me the most. The high that came from having sex with people I didn't know or sex in risky or public areas.

This high was addicting, and something that I chased and enjoyed more than the encounters themselves.

But looking back, the sexual acts that involved situations like this, they were really mundane, at best.

What I have come to realize is that I spent my entire life hanging from chandeliers.

Parties, people, sex, I did it all. Now, what entertains me and interests me the most is walking underneath those chandeliers instead of swinging from them.

Quality over quantity. Simple, right? But in reality, it's really not that simple.

Social media scripts us with what meaningful sex should look like. When really, what we see doesn't represent the reality of real sex between people.

Fantasy is perfection. Reality is not. And when our everyday lives and relationships don't represent what we see on social media, we think that there is something wrong with the relationship or us.

I once had sex with nine different people on the same night. I haven't had sex with one person in the last 9 months. That's how far I've evolved.

Do I miss it, sex? That's another story within itself.

But for this read, what makes sex grand is the connection and vibe you share with your partner. The intimacy, physical and emotional, the safety you feel, and the comfort level of the experience, that's what makes sex fulfilling.

I used to tell men that once you fuck my mind my body will follow.

True story. And what I realized was outside of the moment, beyond the flirtatious and energy vibes, there was really nothing to substantiate anything further than a one-time thing that served the purpose of simply two people, or a group of people, selfishly and systematically going through the motions.

Once you experience complete connection with your partner, even the most vanilla and regular everyday sex or encounter becomes magical.

This is the best sex that I've ever had. It wasn't the highs, the multiple people or orgies, but this. Vanilla, safe, and every day.