#interpals app

How can you be so wrong in guessing someone's age?!

Holy shit dude.

Also, not a single person should have to verify their age by sending a picture. Someone can not show wrinkles and be mid to late 50s. Even 60s.

tw: online manipulation, emotional deception

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You showed up with honeyed words and promises wrapped in poetry. You told me I was “beautiful,” “different,” “understood.”

You slipped into my inbox like a dream — sweet, slow, and strategic.

But this isn’t a love story. It’s a warning. And this letter is for the next version of you.

You moved fast. Too fast.

Flattery, then fantasy. You painted futures you hadn’t earned and borrowed tenderness from books you didn’t write.

You wanted me to imagine love so clearly that I’d forget to check the facts.

But I noticed. The black bar under your photo. The name that didn’t match. The too-perfect timing. The phrases I’ve seen a hundred times before in stories shared by others who’ve been played just like you tried to play me.

You thought I’d fall for the script. But I’ve read it before.

I blocked you. Not because I was scared. Not because I was weak.

I blocked you because I no longer offer softness to strangers who come cloaked in false affection.

I don’t owe you a lesson. But here’s one anyway:

Real connection doesn’t need fantasy. It doesn't push for WhatsApp in 24 hours. It doesn’t speak in recycled poetry. It doesn’t wear someone else’s face.

To the next ‘Romeo’: I see you coming.

I don’t hate you. I just don’t believe you.

And if someone out there is reading this wondering if they’re being played:

✨ Trust your gut. ✨ Ask the questions. ✨ Block without guilt. ✨ Walk away before your heart is handed to a mask.

I’m still here. Soft. Strong. And unbothered.

Because I’m building a life rooted in truth — one boundary at a time.

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Screenshots included below, with identifying details removed. Because your lies don’t deserve to hide.

Me: grey Him: black

So, apparently... Having no idea (genuinely had no idea) of what I would tell a poor person, makes me a dumb racist.

Clarification: Leopold II of Belgium is the king who colonised Congo and wanted a discovery tour of Africa done back in 1879. I had the unfortunate pleasure of hearing about the events that happened at the hands of Leopold II and was disgusted. I wanted to close my history textbook and walk out of class. Sadly, Leopold II is part of the syllabus and probably would have popped up on exams if it wasn't an open book exam. This still didn't lessen any of the disgust I felt by the man's actions and his terrible excuse of basically going: "I had no idea this was even happening". Riiiight.... Denying the mistreatment of the citizens of Congo is a great idea Leopold... Awesome. (sarcasm)

Still, the way this man disrespected me, insulted my intelligence and managed to end up being blocked under 5 minutes baffles me!

I have been talking to this guy for maybe 3 days.

I'm not on InterPals to help people study a new language. Nor am I "avoiding" sending images to this guy. I tried to send an image of my cat, sleeping on my dad's desk (how she managed to make herself comfortable, I don't know) and the app refused to send it. Either because of the file being too big or the file not being supported.

This guy said I avoided calls and images. This guy NEVER mentioned calls before. I would never have consented to this guy calling me. Ever.

"You're either a student, a worker, or a stay-at-home mom"

Excuse me? Mothers can choose to have a career AND have children. My mom has a career and had 2 children (me and my brother). My dad was never the sole provider of the family. My mom had a job as well.

A friend pointed out most, if not all social media apps and sites are the SAME.

So why move away from an app/site like InterPals? Because you want to call me? I haven't seen or heard of anyone that asked to move to a different app, that actually asked if it was ok to call (video or voice).

So no, I'm not sharing my social media with people who intend to call me without first asking if I'm available to do so.

This is my InterPals profile as of right now, since 2 days ago. Focus on the about section where I state: "If you're not 29 -- 32 please do not reach out". If you or anyone else feels like this is about them, calling me an ageist or whatever, please seek help.

This profile is basically me telling older men and women I do not wish them to reach out! At all! Because I know that mostly men will reach out and disregard anything said on my profile. Either that, or they won't read it at all.

I have tried to stick to the truth and the facts about me, but obviously that picture is not me. I would use my picture, my actual face, but I have failed to get a tan and my face looks hideously pale with dark circles. So much so, I want to download Snapchat again purely for that one natural looking filter. I do use an Adobe Lightroom filter specifically for selfies, since it clears up the skin and softly airbrushes it. It erases most blemishes you don't want (acne, red spots, etc) and brightens up your skin a bit so it doesn't look... well, like you need sleep or a 2-month sunny holiday where you tan daily. Because I look pale as hell in normal photos! I really do!

I always add a natural looking filter that evens out my skin tone. It makes me look healthier.

But yeah, this is the one and only profiles I have on InterPals. Or I forgot to delete one and lost my password for it... But I think I deleted my previous one.