Social Media (Mis)Adventures

First things first! This is not a "I hate all men" blog! This is a blog to showcase how men treat women online. Whether the woman is looking for a platonic relationship or not.

You can, by all means, block this blog if the content is not to your liking. But! The better way for you to handle the content is to walk away from it, knowing you (as a man) can do better. Or, as a woman, that sometimes, men suck.

So! This blog is NOT in any way a space to bash, harass or doxx men who have treated me or anyone else identifying as female with utter disrespect.

Some men I encounter aren't all that bad, but mainly don't know how to talk to me and leave the conversation up to me to decide which subjects we talk about. Other times, men will treat me like I'm a piece of meat and don't deserve respect. It's these kinds of men that I put on blast on this blog!

Second!

He was around my age and seemed interested in getting to know me. He lives in the same time zone as me. So all was well.

Come to find out he's a serial cheater, serial flirter, and was flirting with me yesterday. Hours before I found out he had a girlfriend.

He's known to cheat. He's known to seek comfort with other women while in an argument with a girlfriend. He flirts with any girl, under the guise of being "friendly" and "wanting to make friends".

To you I say: Not today.

Stop. Making. Me. Laugh.

Like c'mon! Who would think this is even attractive?! Also, you need to see the TikTok of that one woman explaining men have no idea what they talk about when mentioning their inches... That's a Sick Day I believe. If not worse!

How does this man think that watching him ejaculate, is something I want?

I'm sorry but this is hilarious !!

I don't form connections in one instance of messaging where mere questions are fired off one by one.

I prefer people to form connections with me through common interests and hobbies. If you can't look past a profile picture, don't even send a "Hi". If you can't hold a conversation, don't even message me. If you don't know how to talk to a woman, don't message women.

I'm so tired of men behaving intrusively online.

It's none of your concern how I survive without a job. It's my concern and my family's. Not you ( a stranger online ).

If you start asking for social media IDs, I will not add you because you ask me to. I don't add people I don't know on my social media accounts. Because most of them are PRIVATE and merely used to stay in contact with family and friends.

Don't assume people know your language because an app is international. Most of our countries don't concern themselves with other countries' history. Or their culture.

Read. A. Profile. Before messaging anyone. The amount of times I have been contacted by people who either spoke German to me (thinking I was from Germany) or spoke French when I stated I only speak English and Dutch, is ASTOUNDING. Don't assume someone speaks a language you know and are able to communicate in. Even if you read the profile.

YES I LIKE TO HAVE FUN. Not in a sexual way you moron, but I genuinely like to have fun. If you’re not going to be specific about what you actually mean by asking me whether I'd like to have fun, I will ignore the question.

Do you even know what fun is to me?

Playing video games and almost rage quitting because the level is too hard.

Reading a book and kicking my feet like a 16 year old school girl because the MMC is confessing his undying love to the FMC.

Yelling at my screen because some Korean woman who traveled back in time totally has feelings for the male love interest and is totally oblivious.

Dancing with a broom around the house and using it as a microphone while listening to music and cleaning.

Cozied up on the couch with a blanket and hot chocolate while watching Harry Potter 1 for the 200th time on DVD, because I need my comfort series to whisk me away after a long and sweat-filled summer.

That’s my idea of fun. Sex? It isn't deemed fun to me. It's intimate and whether you like it or not, a connection happens before having sex. Even when you have a one-night stand. So no. Sex does not equal "do you like to have fun?"

Who in their right mind, thinks this is a good first message? GROSS.

How can you be so wrong in guessing someone's age?!

Holy shit dude.

Also, not a single person should have to verify their age by sending a picture. Someone can not show wrinkles and be mid to late 50s. Even 60s.

tw: online manipulation, emotional deception

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You showed up with honeyed words and promises wrapped in poetry. You told me I was “beautiful,” “different,” “understood.”

You slipped into my inbox like a dream — sweet, slow, and strategic.

But this isn’t a love story. It’s a warning. And this letter is for the next version of you.

You moved fast. Too fast.

Flattery, then fantasy. You painted futures you hadn’t earned and borrowed tenderness from books you didn’t write.

You wanted me to imagine love so clearly that I’d forget to check the facts.

But I noticed. The black bar under your photo. The name that didn’t match. The too-perfect timing. The phrases I’ve seen a hundred times before in stories shared by others who’ve been played just like you tried to play me.

You thought I’d fall for the script. But I’ve read it before.

I blocked you. Not because I was scared. Not because I was weak.

I blocked you because I no longer offer softness to strangers who come cloaked in false affection.

I don’t owe you a lesson. But here’s one anyway:

Real connection doesn’t need fantasy. It doesn't push for WhatsApp in 24 hours. It doesn’t speak in recycled poetry. It doesn’t wear someone else’s face.

To the next ‘Romeo’: I see you coming.

I don’t hate you. I just don’t believe you.

And if someone out there is reading this wondering if they’re being played:

✨ Trust your gut. ✨ Ask the questions. ✨ Block without guilt. ✨ Walk away before your heart is handed to a mask.

I’m still here. Soft. Strong. And unbothered.

Because I’m building a life rooted in truth — one boundary at a time.

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Screenshots included below, with identifying details removed. Because your lies don’t deserve to hide.

Please be careful of this person! The person in the Instagram profile may be the actual person, but the Facebook page and the POF page are obviously fake profiles. While I'm not 100% sure of the Facebook profile, I'm suspecting it's a romance scammer. Please be careful!!

Me: grey Him: black

So, apparently... Having no idea (genuinely had no idea) of what I would tell a poor person, makes me a dumb racist.

Clarification: Leopold II of Belgium is the king who colonised Congo and wanted a discovery tour of Africa done back in 1879. I had the unfortunate pleasure of hearing about the events that happened at the hands of Leopold II and was disgusted. I wanted to close my history textbook and walk out of class. Sadly, Leopold II is part of the syllabus and probably would have popped up on exams if it wasn't an open book exam. This still didn't lessen any of the disgust I felt by the man's actions and his terrible excuse of basically going: "I had no idea this was even happening". Riiiight.... Denying the mistreatment of the citizens of Congo is a great idea Leopold... Awesome. (sarcasm)

Still, the way this man disrespected me, insulted my intelligence and managed to end up being blocked under 5 minutes baffles me!

I have been talking to this guy for maybe 3 days.

I'm not on InterPals to help people study a new language. Nor am I "avoiding" sending images to this guy. I tried to send an image of my cat, sleeping on my dad's desk (how she managed to make herself comfortable, I don't know) and the app refused to send it. Either because of the file being too big or the file not being supported.

This guy said I avoided calls and images. This guy NEVER mentioned calls before. I would never have consented to this guy calling me. Ever.

"You're either a student, a worker, or a stay-at-home mom"

Excuse me? Mothers can choose to have a career AND have children. My mom has a career and had 2 children (me and my brother). My dad was never the sole provider of the family. My mom had a job as well.

A friend pointed out most, if not all social media apps and sites are the SAME.

So why move away from an app/site like InterPals? Because you want to call me? I haven't seen or heard of anyone that asked to move to a different app, that actually asked if it was ok to call (video or voice).

So no, I'm not sharing my social media with people who intend to call me without first asking if I'm available to do so.