The hard truth about having ADHD, at least for me: Not letting go of shitty belief systems because how else am I supposed to describe the fact that sometimes I‘m very slow on the uptake, like one couldn‘t make it anymore clearer & I‘m still sitting there looking @ them like they‘ve grown two heads.
So no. You don‘t have to ‘do better‘ (everytime) to know that (and why) certain words cause (unnoticed) harm. And I really doubt that we‘ll get rid of it completely… Because sometimes the shitty comments are in fact nothing but internalized shit. Doesn‘t change the fact that we need to learn how to set boundaries and deal with it.
Just remember: (Snarky) comments aren‘t always the (best) answer. Y’know, in case some of you wonder (again) why (sometimes people) don‘t comment on hurtful shit (even though they should) You can be angry about it, as you should be. Just keep in mind that this is why some still choose to do diplomatic or ‘simple‘ first. Not to ‘save‘ the dicks, but the people who might be fighting in silence.
