May 7, 2024
Seeking advice-
I've seen people who have been in in-system relationships for years, which gives me hope that it can work out. Lately, I've been struggling a lot with the fact that I'm unable to share physical space with him. It limits so many activities, and despite cofronting & internal visualization, I'm so touch-starved. Any activities we do together, even just taking a walk, requires concentration and effort, and don't feel as solid or prominent as they do with external friends/partners.
Are there ways that other systems navigate this? Is it something I'll just get used to with time?
-Aliferous
#insys relationship#in system relationships#system dating#internal dating#insys dating#evenfall keeps encouraging me to become closer with our external partner#and i've been doing so. but that doesn't change the fact that i miss *him*.#we shared a source and i miss what we had. it wasn't entirely healthy but i want it to be healthy now.#maybe he's right and the pain will ease when i form stronger external relationships but he himself is still very important to me#we're going to make a list soon of ideas on ways to connect. but i feel like it's never going to be enough#it's encouraging to see other systems who've made it work somehow#and although evenfall misses me too he seems to be handling it much better than i am. but i don't know how to fix whatever's up with me.#i may be slightly co-dependent on him#personal#system#relationship#aliferous
