#innerbonding

In both my books Cerebral Palsy: ‘A Story’ and ‘Spirituality, Healing and Me’ I write a letter to myself, highlighting different things about what my younger version would say to my adult self. What would your younger version say to your adult self?

How you cope as an adult all depends on how you left your inner child. Our inner child stores memories of our childhood. When anyone lives and deals with trauma in childhood, (and that includes myself) it is our inner child that needs help.

Healing our inner child, helps us heal. When you work through trauma, your inner child can heal and that means you shall have peace. Even with cathartic moments in life, we can still carry trauma.

I try to find the joy in those times; now my purpose is my writing. Through my words, I offer alternative points of view, views that allow for healing whilst fitting the universal brief. I give the reader understanding and offer empathy.

What I write is truth, although that’s often difficult to accept. My words are the world’s truth and as I continue to place energy on my life and I ignore other’s personal expectations of me, I find peace in my world. And you can too.

If you want to know more about healing your inner child, or you’re just looking for more info, or you fancy grabbing your copy, check out this link – https://linktr.ee/Ilana_Estelle

I promise

All I did was to give my whole heart. My whole mind My whole soul.

I gave them to hands I thought would protect them. Instead the same ones I thought would be my security became the very reason for my feet to shake of instability.

I made myself more vulnerable than I’ve ever been with anyone and thought “this is it, this is the reason why I had to go through all of which I did” In the end it was just another lesson, another cruel lesson to bring me down to my knees and humble me for what I had forgotten.

It was there while being on the ground, with nobody but myself that I truly got awokened. Love is not equal to pain, love is to make you feel soft and tender and peaceful. Not give you anxiety cause you depression and make you second guess every action and intention from the other person.

Love can be found, if you first find the love to be there for yourself first before anyone else. Love is not through getting validation and attention. Love is something you give yourself. I’m learning this everyday, and inshallah with Allahs help I will be guided to a better place emotionally than the one I’m at right now. But the biggest lesson I learnt is that without Allahs blessing and guidance and will, nothing, no matter how much you want it, will be. Often for reasons beyond our comprehension, often for reasons to protect us from further pain and heartache. Alhamdulilah ya rab for everything.

Today, notice whether it is more important to you to be right or to be loving. The wounded self is devoted to being right. The loving Adult is willing to let go of having to be right, and of having to win. Today, make the choice to be right or to be loving a conscious choice. - Margaret Paul