#infj fe

Why do Enneagram 4′s seem to have this tendency to hold onto negative emotions longer than other types? In other words, why are they more tolerable of suffering in themselves and in others?

Enneagram 4′s can hold onto a memory of being in pain or sorrow for long periods of time. What they’re afraid of is losing perspective on what it once felt like to suffer and no longer be able to relate to those that are suffering. It might be due to knowing that emotional pain can very much invisible to others. And when hurt, they realize other people can also feel the same way, or feel even worse. Well, it’s not about comparing pain, but being unable to forget the existence that there is suffering in the world. To them, a world where people are unaware of or apathetic to the suffering of others, is more depressing than the suffering itself.

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Fe makes morals based on everyone else’ right? So how does that work? I think I figured it out when I went to a club meeting that I’m a part of. They really want to promote sustainability and while I know that its a worthwhile effort (Ti/Fe), it isn’t necessarily important to me right now. However, since my club considers it important, I feel like I have to promote it too. So now, it’s becoming a part of my morals to be a greener citizen.

Another example of Fe morality would be in appropriate behaviors in social situations. Normally, Fe tells me to be nice to everyone, which is a Fe moral in itself, however, when I notice others teasing someone I normally wouldn’t, and they don’t seem to mind it too much, my moral would change to letting myself tease them too.