Do not project inner lack onto outer forms. External things like partner, cars, pretty places are not going to fullfill you inner lack because they are:
Impermanent. Everything decays, evolves, disappoints.
Not structurally designed to complete you. They exist for themselves, not to fulfill your psychological gaps.
Subject to projection .You don’t fall in love with a new car. You fall in love with the meaning you injected into it.
Filtered through your cognitive biases. You don’t experience the real. What you desire is your fantasy about reality. A modeled version skewed by trauma, memory, and expectation.
Out of your control . You can’t stabilize what isn’t yours. The more you grasp, the more you suffer.
Tethered to your power. Your own striving for an ideal relationship will turn any “perfect” relationship into a new stage for old dramas.
