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It’s good! I like it. I can go with almost anything on my pizza except for anchovies or mushrooms...I really dun like mushrooms.- Mod Cerbie

flkjsa;j okay I know I’m late to reply but that’s only because 1) I was spending time with my girlfriend and 2) I wanted to provide a thoughtful answer haha. 

I can’t teach you how to love, but I can tell you ways to have a healthy and loving relationship! 

1.Communication! Communication! Communication! You probably hear this a lot, but it’s true. Communication isn’t like, “We’re gonna have chicken for dinner”  or “You’re making me mad right now so I’m not talking to you”. Communication is like “Hey I feel uncomfortable and upset when you do this thing, so I need space right now then when I’m feeling better, we can talk about it.” Yes, it’s a lot more work and you are going to have to be vulnerable, but shouldn’t you be able to bare yourself open like that to someone you want to commit to?

2. Compromise. In a healthy relationship, not everything is about you. Even when you think you’re being selfless, there will always be some self serving motivation behind it. There’s no such thing as a selfless act. But you should be able to work out something that way, you and your partner can both be happy. 

3. Spend time with each other. Whether it’s everyday or once a year, it’s important to spend some time with your partner. I understand that distance can be a problem (All my partners are long distance. The closest partner I have is an hour away, which doesn’t sound much, but we have conflicting schedules and there’s the issue that I haven’t come out yet so I’m restricted), but spending time together doesn’t need to be physical. Rabb.it is a great site to watch movies together and you can video and voice there. You can video call while washing the dishes or playing online games together. I haven’t done this myself, but there are some couples who have a “dinner date” via online call. Basically the idea is to keep couples from drifting apart and having feelings fade. 

4. Respect. Know that your partner is their own person and should be able to have their own life away from you. If they don’t text back within an hour, that doesn’t mean that they are cheating on you. Let them have their privacy. I know there are a lot of well-intentioned people out there, who always want to help, but if your partner doesn’t feel like talking about something, back off. Don’t press them and trust that they’ll come to you when they need help. And if you’re the type of person who bottles everything up, understand how destructive that can be for you as a person, and for your relationship. Your partner will be worried about you, and you should be able to reveal to them your troubles (part of communication) but if for some reason you can’t, do something to genuinely reassure them that you will be able to solve this yourself. 

5. Try Polyamory/Have a support system It sounds ridiculous, I know. Polyamory? That’s too much. I agree that poly relationships aren’t for everyone, and that’s okay, but there’s an aspect about polyamory that works for monogamous couples too. Basically what I like about poly is that there’s no pressure. Everyone has their own unique gifts and strengths, and when in a relationship, neither partner should be expected to have all those qualities. For example, if my girlfriend is having a panic attack, she’d go to our other datemate for comfort. I am not offended nor insulted because I know that I can’t give her the same help as our other partner. To me, it doesn’t matter who she goes to, all I care about is if she’s okay. This goes for monogamous couples too, but it doesn’t have to be another datemate or partner, it can be a sibling, a friend, or coworker. My point is, having a support system outside of each other can reduce the pressure of solving every problem and benefit each other more. 

Here, I wrote a script of what a healthy argument looks like to me. 

P1: “Hey, I am upset that you did not text me back earlier”

P2: “Oh, I’m sorry for that. I was (insert reason here).” 

P1: “Okay well, it made me feel neglected and I was worried about you. Can you text me beforehand if you’re going to be a long time without your phone?” 

P2: “I understand, and I’m sorry. I didn’t mean to hurt you and I love you. Thank you for bringing this up to me” 

Notice how P1 stated the issue, and addressed their needs? And P2 didn’t try to defend themself, just stated their reason and heard what their partner has to say, then reassured their partner that they still love them? Reassuring and thanking your partners for bringing up an issue is a big part of it, because most likely, they were nervous to bring it up and be giving a calm reaction and reassurance, it gives them more confidence to bring up other issues in the future, instead of harboring them and letting it build up. P1 also addressed how it made them feel, which helps their partner understand that they aren’t being needy or obsessive, which is what couples tend to think. 

Hoo boy, would I!  Cheesy, star-crossed lovers is my jam.  I’m all about some cheese; I’ll watch it, I’ll read it, I’ll write it all.  

The last original project I was working on was based on literal star-crossed lovers.  I was going off the stories of the zodiac and other constellations, but it was set in modern-day and from the point-of-view of a literal fallen star.  She’d fallen and been reborn as a human (because it turns out that the stars get a wish granted when they fall, not the person that wishes upon the shooting star, and that was her wish), and one day, she meets someone that seems so familiar, even though they’ve never met.  However, when her perfect date with this mystery man is ruined by someone trying to kill her, she discovers there’s more to him than meets the eye.  Turns out, he’s the constellation Leo, and he’s been searching for her; he needs her help.  

I forgot how the rest of the summary went, but basically, they have a sordid past she can’t remember--and she discovers her best friend is also a star that fell when she did (Aries), to protect her--from both Leo and the forces that took over their realm.  Ultimately, the Big Bad is Typhon who corrupted the constellations, and the MC, Alysa, was the bearer of light in her myth, so she can purify the corruption.  

I spent so much time writing out personifications of constellations and studying the Greek mythology, so I absolutely love anything to do with it. 

I never finished the project (though I have pages and pages of notes about each character and all of the zodiac plus several other constellations were going to appear), but I once thought about applying the concept to Undertale.  But, ya’know, someone beat me to the monsters being the zodiac personified.  

.... I got off-track.  Whoops.

But yeah!  Star-crossed is great!  How about Inu-Yasha?  I always liked the idea of it ending with Inu finding her in the present-day, 500 years after the well closes.  I’ve written that before, actually.   Orrrr Fushigi Yugi!  That had a star-crossed lovers finding each other deal!  

ajskdkajshd this is so sweet omg! X’DDD <3 <3 <333

And due I aspire to be Papyrus level cool every day of my life D: which i mean both jokingly but also in other ways completely seriously.

And I try my best uwu I am sorry if others don’t see me as a good person but I’m trying. <3