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   It is very hard to fully trust someone if they have let you down in the past, end of story. I don't care if they're your friend, boyfriend/girlfriend, brother, mom, etc. Giving someone your full trust is not simple after it has been dropped. If that person isn't showing you in a multiple of ways that they care for you and would love to gain your trust back, then they aren't worth being that upset over. And yes, I know it's hard to just stop caring about someone even if they have done you wrong many times, but time heals all wounds and it's okay to move on from toxic relationships. In general, it is okay to move on and you should never be ashamed of your feelings.

  My point in saying all this is if you're in a relationship without trust, is it even a relationship? To me, relationships should consist of these things: honesty, loyalty, trust, freedom and openness. Yeah, I know, sounds kind of basic, but it's true. The first three should be a given, but the last two I think are very important as well. Like in the conversation held last night, you should both have freedom to do things, be friends with who you want, etc. without the other getting upset or trying to control you. Controlling relationships are a no for me, I'm sorry (unless you're into that in the bedroom but HEY THAT'S ANOTHER STORY.) And I think they should be a no for all of you as well, because you deserve better than that. You should be able to do everything you normally do, but with the advantage of being able to do it with your significant other. If that list of things includes going out and kissing everyone of your close friends and it makes your partner uncomfortable, then hey, maybe you should take a serious break from one of the two to avoid anybody getting hurt. Openness is also something that I think every single one of you should have in your relationships. You should be able to comfortably tell them your thoughts, ideas, dreams, everything. Even if what they have to say is kind of silly, I would appreciate my significant other telling me. Heck, I'd share something silly and probably embarrassing, too! If you've done something wrong, fess up. If you go sneaking around, hiding things from your partner, that's like a major sign of an unhealthy relationship. It only leads to someone getting hurt and that isn't our job here on this earth, people.    I'm not sure why I decided to ramble on about this at 7 a.m. but idk. One thing I do know is I do not like seeing my friends hurt. If you are in a bad relationship and you want to fix it, discuss it with your partner or ask a trusted friend how to go about doing so! If it seems your partner doesn't care to bother with solving the problems with you in your relationship, don't be upset for too long. Remember you don't need anyone to be happy. Learn to be happy solo and who knows what kind of relationships you can build from there!