#idds

Like I would have told you if you asked nicely but now I'm not telling you fucking shit.

@this-is-kinmisia

The wording of asking “are you actually intellectually disabled” is ableism.

There is internal debate within the community of who and even if it can be reclaimed.

That being said, I looked through your posts containing the word and I believe you’ve made it clear you’ve personally reclaimed the word. Also, when you use it, it’s purely to exemplify that it is a slur and does do harm, and you aren’t using it against others.

(This will go into the nuanced tag as well, not because I think you’re being ableist, in fact I saw quite the opposite of ableism on your part, but just because of the topic this post is about)

Simple language below:

Saying “are you actually intellectually disabled” is ableism.

People in the disabled community debate if the r-slur can be reclaimed.

I looked at your posts and I saw you reclaimed the word.

I see you reclaimed the word.

You do not use the word against others.

(I will use the nuanced tag because of the topic of the r-slur.

One way to be good allies is to listen to us. Either it be through our voice, body language, or a help of a caregiver communicating for us. A big thing that people do that isn't very ally of them is not listening to us.

Another way is to acknowledge that not all of us are the same and have different needs and wants. Though this probably also stems from listening to us.

Correct people about things! Like the usage of the r slur for example! How we're affected and etc. Correcting misinformation is a great way to help us.

Another way is to alsp spread awareness about us. For example the intellectual disability/general IDD and Borderline Intellectual Disability flags are fairly new, so having more people know about those flags would be a nice way to spread awareness and a way to recognize us!

This is Anti-IDD!

This is Anti-IDD!

The most common thing I see about this is that it only affects school, whenever it's one's whole life instead. People can relate, but people may not relate to the whole picture.

This is Anti-IDD!

When he found out that it was Lewis Capaldi, he said that Lewis was more than a little behind the 8-ball, and more than a little retarded, and that his 2 brain cells would hardly connect. I was so angry I wanted to slug him in the face, but I didn't want to get into trouble for being violent, so I had to go take a walk.

I was still angry even when I came back, so I couldn't even look at him because I felt like I might hit him if I did. It made me very upset. I left the gathering early and cried a lot on the walk home. I was also very upset with basically everyone else there because no one seemed to have as big an issue with it as I did.

I'm "gifted" but I grew up with IDD people in my social circles so I very deeply care about IDD issues. I wish it wasn't so common to be discriminatory.

This is Anti-IDD!

The most apparent way they were ableist was when they worried about the possibility of also having undiagnosed borderline IDD (despite constantly touting their verbal intellectual superiority) and would say things like “if I have bIDD I’d be too stupid to know if I’m asexual or nonbinary” when the IDD person is literally both of those things (and understands the split attraction model too!)

This is Anti-IDD!