#hotmess

And guess WHO befriended Monica and supported her bashing of Sam? None other than the biggest Outlander fandom Sam haters--Cant Resist Temptation and her Minions, who consist of Ex-Extreme SamCait Shippers, Shipper Sympathizers, and assorted fandom Mean Girls. The comments below belong to Monica aka mon mons right here on Tumblr. She left comments on CRT’s Tumblr blog and is commiserating with other Sam haters about their mutual guilty pleasure--hating on Sam. 👇 It says a lot about Monica's level of pettiness that she’s talking to FANS...I mean who does that? And on top of that, fans who clearly have a bias and an agenda. JS. But speaking of agenda...Monica knows all about it...$

And of course, the worst of the worst dedicated Sam haters, CRT, Bootsauce and Frenchy rabidly jump in to express their support of Monica. Just picture the DM’s going back and forth between Monica and that group. I can almost smell the putrid froth from here. 👇 They’re all acting as if this is some #metoo type of abusive situation when the REALITY is Sam’s “just not that into you,” and Monica was butthurt and decided to make a mountain out of a molehill. Let’s save the outrage for REAL victims of abuse. I hate when women play victim when they’re anything but--takes credibility away from real victims. I’m not a Sam mommy, I don’t think he walks on water, and I know he’s not a saint, BUT what happened between Sam and Monica did not warrant her vindictive actions. And worse, she used Sam to get her name out there, give herself more visibility, and make money. Thirsty doesn’t begin to cover it.  

But, let’s backtrack a bit and do a history lesson of how this all came to be. Like I said, a few years ago, Sam and Monica were mutually following on social media. If you do a search of Sam and Monica’s names on different social media platforms, you’ll see some interactions that were friendly and flirty. Tumblr limits screencaps to 10, so I’m not posting those, but they’re out there. At some point, Monica Tweeted that she needed help to have enough money to go to the Olympics (I can’t find that exact Tweet, so I’m assuming she deleted it). And Sam replied to her and retweeted her Tweet, thus giving her fundraising campaign FREE publicity, since his over 700,000 Twitter followers would see it. Monica got some hate from Extreme Shippers who don’t like it when Sam talks to pretty, sporty, young blondes, and she also interacted with some fans who showed her support. 👇 As you can see, her Go Fund Me campaign exceeded expectations, and in no small part to the boost Sam gave her by Retweeting on his account. 

Weeelll, as the saying goes “no good deed goes unpunished,” and things eventually went south between our two blonde giants. Sam and Monica continued to DM and flirt and made plans to get together whenever Sam was in New York next, but an in person date never came to fruition. Sam is VERY BUSY, so I’m not surprised, BUT, the reality is if a guy is into a woman he will MAKE THE TIME to see her. When Sam didn’t follow through on tentative plans, THAT should have been the signal to any woman who has dated human men, that, say it with me, “he’s just not that into you.” But, guess Mon Mon didn’t get the ages old dating memo.

Should Sam have been direct and told her he actually wasn’t interested? In an ideal world, yes. But, as we’ve seen, Sam is a people pleaser, doesn’t like anyone getting mad at him, and on top of that, he’s a HUGE flirt, who doles out his ubiquitous “let’s meet for a wee dram the next time I’m in town,” to any remotely attractive woman. I’m sure he figured when he didn’t actually SEE Monica IN PERSON, that she would get the message that it was a no go. But of course, that’s not what happened. Should Monica feel disappointed and upset that Sam made it seem like they were going to get together in person, continued to contact her, and then flaked? Of course, that’s an appropriate reaction. But once she figured out there was not going to be any Samonica, she should have put on her big girl panties and set her sights on someone who actually wanted to be with her. And realized what smart women with life experience know, when a man is into you, he will make the effort to SPEND TIME WITH YOU. Now you know.

What is NOT an appropriate reaction is what Monica ended up doing and continues to do. She went all over social media badmouthing Sam, acting like he was killing puppies FFS, AND created a podcast where she directly badmouths him and MADE MONEY OFF OF IT. 👇 And she’s STILL badmouthing him. SMH. 

In her podcast, she talks about all the men who have wronged her (Gee, who’s the common denominator here?) but it’s interesting that the ONLY one she has ever named is Sam, the one who is rich and famous and has tons of followers. Why hasn’t she mentioned the names of the other men? $$$ In the podcast, we find out exactly how over the top her reaction to what happened is. She admits that she used to “stalk” Sam’s whereabouts, she scoured the Internet to find out who else Sam had dated, going as far as reaching out to these women! (As an aside...2 of Sam’s exes she contacted blocked her). Well that sends a clear message on whose side they were on AND helps us gauge Monica’s level of crazy.

Eventually, after Monica gathered all her intel, she made the podcast where she PUBLICLY smears Sam’s name. Oh, and if Sam was such a terrible person and she didn’t want anything to do with him, how come she didn’t block him when she first made her podcast? (Now they’ve both mutually blocked) but as you can see below 👇 Sam “liked” one of her pics not long after all of this was happening. You can’t do that if you’re blocked. Also important to note, with few exceptions, ALL of Sam’s exes and ex flings still follow him on social media, including some of the women Monica talked to, like Georgia Ellenwood and Danielle Kling. If he’s such a "toxic" man, why haven’t THEY blocked him? 

Monica has a right to be pissed off all she wants that Sam made promises to see her and then didn’t, but to then launch a public witch hunt against him is so OVER THE TOP and not commensurate at all with what actually happened. They never even met in person! The same way a woman has a right to change her mind, doesn’t a man have the same right? Sam thought he wanted to go on a date with Monica and then he CHANGED HIS MIND. That’s not a crime. Or are some women under the impression that once he tells a woman "we should have a wee dram when I'm in town," he is OBLIGATED to go through with it? That sounds like forcing someone to do something they don't want to do just because there was a previous expectation. And that's NEVER acceptable for women or men. And given everything we now know about how Monica behaves, Sam had good instincts that she was a train wreck and he thankfully dodged a bullet. 

ALSO, she said Sam “threatened” her. It’s disconcerting that she used the word “threaten” to describe Sam and his legal team warning her that they would pursue legal action if she continued to malign him publicly. But if we’re going to use emotion-laden words, with viscerally aggressive connotations, let’s continue with “threaten.” SHE threatened him FIRST, she went after HIM. Um, she PUBLICLY smeared his name AKA his brand, of course he was going to defend himself. He had every right to have his legal team contact her letting her know that if she continued slandering him, they would report her to the Olympic Committee and Fencing Association for “conduct” violation. Read their rules of conduct and she violated them with her libelous words against another person. In addition, it would be understandable if Sam decided to have a cease and desist order sent if she continued to publicly slander him, since it could have an effect on his career. That's not Sam "threatening" her, that's Sam protecting his livelihood.

Here she is encouraging people to promote the podcast where she bashes Sam and inciting them to "blow it up ladies" IOW make it go viral AKA witch hunt against Sam. And notice the shout out to follow her on all her social media accounts and "support this podcast." $$$ 👇

Every woman Sam has actually been in a relationship with (not just hit on in DM’s) has nothing but nice things to say about him, and like I previously mentioned, the majority still follow him, that speaks volumes. Even, his ex Cody Kennedy’s mom, Jinx Kennedy, said “I don’t have anything bad to say about Sam, he was a gentleman,” and this was after Sam broke up with her daughter to go back to Abbie Salt! Again, that speaks volumes. Is Sam perfect? No. Can he be a douche? Of course. He’s a human male, they can all be douchy at some point from birth to death. But overall, he is a good guy, and the MAJORITY of people who know him attest to that. It’s sad that one bitter Betty, I mean miserable Monica took it so far, and for her own self-serving ulterior motives. $$$ I’m getting tired writing this...almost done. 

Here’s something that’s ironic. Monica criticized Sam for messaging her and then blowing her off, yet here she is rationalizing why it’s okay for HER TO DO THE SAME THING. Hypocrite, much?  👇

And for someone who claims to want to keep her private life private she sure DOES the OPPOSITE.  👇 Again, hypocrite, much? And she mentions she worries men will want to date her for the “clout.” Um, NO ONE knows who she is except Olympics fans...oh wait, NOW THEY DO, because she made sure of that by ranting and raving about Sam “ghosting” her, MAKING MONEY off her association with Sam, and most recently, going on the nationally televised reality show “Joe Millionaire.” Which ironically is about MULTIPLE women trying to win the heart of a MILLIONAIRE...gold digger, give me my 15 minutes of fame, much? Literally 15 minutes on the show and she was the first one voted off by BOTH men. She claims it’s because they both thought she was too tall...yeah, I guess it didn’t have anything to do with her off-putting personality and the ding ding ding bunny boiler alerts going off in both guys’ heads at all. Sure, Jan.