#hiparents

I'm biased. My parents, for the most part, have always been super chill and amazing. I'm full asian but my parents have never put a super heavy emphasis on grades, but more on work ethic and character. I'm thankful for that, since I find that I have way less self image and identity issues than some might have.

Some issues from my personal experience:

-Please talk to your child more openly about emotions and what not. Maybe a dicey and uncomfortable topic, but I think once it's a habit it becomes easier, and can make everyone closer. For me, I'm not particularly emotional, but when I do have issues from time to time, my parents never seem as emotionally available. But hey, what are friends for...? Anyhow, still a good idea

-A stupid obvious one but we're not tryna challenge you whenever we try to reason or explain to you. Yes, I know the tone comes off as sharp, yes I will try harder not to do that next time I've been on the receiving end of an unintentionally sharp question or retort, too.

-You should probably try to actively talk to us more instead of complaining about how we don't interact with you very much, and then use outdated information to make judgements about us... I do try to make efforts to talk, but they don't always work... so, uh effort on your part please!

Other parent observations

-You need to let your kid learn on his own, and stop assuming the way YOU did it was the end all be all of learning methods. Also, if you never allow your child freedom, and helicopter parent, emailing teachers, helping them study, keeping them on task, they're not going to be able to get anywhere. Like yikes, they're a sophomore in high school now, last year I was already completely independent of my parents for school work and such!

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-don't neglect one child in favor of the other, because one needs much more help, that only breeds resentment...