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5 things I learned by 23

1. People come and go

So wipe your hands of them and move on. Yes, I know, it’s easier said than done for most people but if you pretend they don’t exist eventually you’ll forget they ever did. 🙂

2. Self love and self care is important

Put yourself first for once because you’re no good to anyone let alone yourself if you don’t take care of your mind, body and soul.

3. Learn how to cook

I feel…

Dear Diary “We cannot shame ourselves into change, we can only love ourselves into evolution.” It’s 3:00 am. And I don’t know sleep. But this quote inspired me. This is me in a nutshell. Shaming myself into change instead of loving the journey I take to evolve and flourish. Surely this post will mainly be a bunch of rambling after all it’s 3:00 am and I’m talking to myself via internet…

Dear Diary I’m in pain and I miss my boo </3 middle finger to the world rn xoxo thats tea with Tammy

Dear Diary why are boundaries such a travesty. Especially growing up in my black household. You put up a boundary and next thing you know your family isn’t talking to you.. until they need you next of course. I’m guilty of this and it’s something I so badly want to break out of.. Low vibrational habits.. I guess thats todays theme. Being low vibrational and the steps to becoming a high…

Dear Diary today I found myself thinking about not why the people around me are so misrable but why I am concerned about why they are so miserable. I also find myself telling my son to mind his business when I need to take my own advice. I allow myself to be affected by the people around me so greatly that I let it change my mood. I care about me and my self growth so I’m committing to a journal…

It’s true: people come and go with the seasons. Have you ever been so excited to be friends with someone that when it ends it’s so disappointing like damn I thought you were the one lol. Friendships, like any relationship is work. But sometimes friendships expire for a reason. You out grow this person or there’s a conflict no one is willing to work through whatever the case may be 🤷🏾‍♀️. I’ve out…

So I’ve been a black woman for almost 23 years now. I have experienced a lot in my time! Black Women in the work place: So over my time and different jobs I have always run into the problem of having a “strong personality” (they don’t call it being a bully anymore, thank god) and having a “strong personality” is something that people apparently have to tip toe around. I’m currently having an…