The end of my Sugar Baby days was thinking $10k/month was goals.

Moving on to escorting I was doing $150k my first year

And this year…

$600k

I count tips and everything a client willingly covers such as fmty travel expenses as income because it’s money coming in that I have to report and I expense it for taxes.

And I’m not even model quality or top tier so I can only imagine what a top provider is raking in

So many girls are getting into arrangements and honestly I don’t even know what to ask for without sounding greedy.

I have a few more bookings to complete and 10 days off with no bookings so unless someone cancels I absolutely cannot take anymore bookings. Well I guess I could… I don’t really want to unless it’s a good booking.

I would like to offer some advice to the anons thinking about joining this industry. Maybe some of these things can be helpful:

Invest money in a photoshoot and a good website and you will be fine. Even if you live in a city with a ton of competition - don’t let that get to you. Focus on yourself. Lay back and relax. People will find your ad. And they will book you. There’s no money like new girl money. When you’re new people hope your dumb and naive tho - don’t fall for their bullshit. Some clients will say it’s standard practice to have unprotected sex or how no one else asks for a deposit and all that kind of stuff. They are lying. don’t even reply to people like that. The biggest loser move is to screenshot back and forth arguments with clients and posting it on social media. Have your boundaries and stick to them. Don’t argue. Don’t over explain. People will either book or not. Send a deposit or not. Send screening information or not. It’s that simple. Men who try to make you convince them of your worth are idiots and not worth dealing with.

When you start on social media and try to grow your following, don’t be too annoying about it. Instead of commenting 20 times on one escorts page, comment 20 times on 20 different pages. Oh and for the love of god no AI generated captions or comments. Keep it cute, keep it short. „You’re so stunning!“ „Wow that colour looks so good on you! 😍“

I hate when other escorts try to be super Witty with every single comment and caption. if something witty or funny comes to mind share it but don’t force it.

Rule number one for social media marketing: stay out of drama.

When it comes to rates Europe sucks. Don’t price yourself too low but be realistic. If your photos are trash or you look like you’re in bad shape you can’t charge as much. 1hr should not be below 500 in my opinion. but depending on the city you might not be able to charge more than that. You will get a feeling. Do what works. A lot of escorts in Europe start with 2h and don’t even offer one hour dates. I can’t tell you what’s gonna work for sure. When I started I got on tr*st and clicked on every profile listed in my city. Wrote down everyone’s rates and calculated the average haha

To survive in this industry you need returning clients. That’s the most important factor. New clients come and go. You need regulars. I remember when I started out I was so worried about the marketing aspect. And although that’s a very important part of it, don’t forget to focus on the experience you provide. Make the experience unforgettable and these men will return. I’m not even talking about anything sexual btw. Make them feel special. That’s it. that’s all they want. Pretend like you’re so excited and happy to see them, like you really really care about them, like you’re listening to their boring stories. After a session I take notes in my phone about something they mentioned and bring it up the next time I see them, asking how it went or if there’s an update. They love this kind of stuff. Always make eye contact, stroke their ego and be nice and fun to be around. This is not only gonna help to secure regulars but might also lead to longer dates and overnight dates. Those are super important if you want to increase your income. Never be in a bad mood when seeing a client. Be nice but don’t be a doormat. The moment a client is disrespectful or pushing boundaries you put him in his place. Try being firm but friendly. Depending on the situation and the men you can get more aggressive with it.. and if that doesn’t work you go full on bitch mode. Over time you will figure out the right balance of bitchy and professional.

Always show up looking good. Some girls will tell you that you can get away with no makeup, hair not done and showing up in pyjamas lol and maybe that works for them - don’t assume it’s gonna work for you.

Don’t share too much personal info. It’s a no brainer but it’s important. Change personal details. Not sure if everyone is gonna agree on this but I take my privacy very seriously. There are so many scary people out there I’m not gonna risk it. Have a fake birth day, fake background, fake family, fake upbringing, fake university you attended. Write down a story that makes sense and stick to it. Don’t forget to practice telling your fake story. some aspects can be true of course but be very careful what you tell people. I, for example, lie about my nationality. My family is also from a small Eastern European country but I just say I’m from Russia. Europeans don’t know the difference and they don’t care. That’s the point. They don’t care if you say the truth or not. People in this industry love throwing the word “authentic“ around. That goes for both clients and escorts.. but the thing is.. Clients don’t care if you lie. They just don’t want to feel like you’re lying. That’s their definition of authenticity.

Lastly, SAVE YOUR MONEY - and NEVER NEVER NEVER start the session without counting your money first. Bonus tip: buy a Counterfeit money detection pen.

For context, I’m from Europe, France, to be exact and I was wondering if you could share what your first time meeting a client was like, because I’m pretty nervous about it. I’ve been trying to find mentors or experienced girls who could guide me, but here in France everything is super hush-hush. It’s very “if you know, you know.”

I’ve emailed and DMed a few girls in Paris, but most of them either ignored me or didn’t engage with my questions. So I was hoping that maybe you could share what your first experience was like.

Hi Babe,

First I'm based in US so I might not have some answers for you but if anyone out there has input, feel free to chime in. One of my good friends is Europe based and does OF, but she is so booked she uses an agency which she prefers. I do know that the screening process is much different than the US and rates can be a bit lower as well. You might not be able to fully screening clients like the US, which I think you should ask a European based provider.

If you want to ask for advice, you will need to pay for their time. It's the name of the game, and you need to spend money to make money. And please don't pay for any online courses or whatever, or any ladies opening saying they are offering mentorship. That's just a scam and what I mean by that is something working for them does not translate working for you!! You're going to need to find what works for you, what persona you want to take on, how you want to market yourself, etc.

I would suggest making a website and have some ads up, and some social media presence first before approaching other girls for advice or to meet up. You need to establish you are serious, of age, and genuine. That's pretty much what I did when I first started and wasn't part of my community yet.

The first time is always nerve-wrecking, because unlike sugaring, clients may want to just dive right into it and no social outing time to feel them out.

For example with a 1 hour booking I always greet them first, offer a beverage, then start on the couch with some chit chat, small talk. Some girls like to take this time to establish boundaries or sometimes seasoned clients will bring that up. I always offer they are welcome to use the restroom if they would like. Usually the donation is taken care of within the first part of the date. You can count the money when they wash their hands or shower. If you don't get it you can always say "do you have something for me?" or "let's take care of the business first so we can have fun!" or some variation, just be cute and flirty about it.