#heart-ablaze

Here’s the rules, Rule 1: Always post the rules. Rule 2: Answer the questions the person who tagged you asked, and write 11 new ones. Rule 3: Tag 11 (I know I only tagged 10...whoops) people and link them to the post. Rule 4: Actually tell them you tagged them.

1) Favourite book? The Catcher in the Rye or Looking for Alaska

2) Do you believe in love at first sight?Maybe not love, just attraction

3) Three of your best features? I love my hair…my eyebrows are cool and also my creativity?

4) OTP? BrOTP? Jily, Destiel and Jam (Jim and Pam)…and for BrOTP James and Sirius

5) Least favourite fictional character? Snape I’m sorry

6) What would you concider your greatest talent? I think I have good social skills

7) What is your dream job? Forensic Phycologist

8) Are you in a relationship? If so, what’s your partner like? If not, is there someone you would like to be with? No to the first but yes to if not…and I don’t know how to get him to notice me like NOTICE me boys are infuriating

9) Cats or dogs? I used to say cats but I just got a pug puppy, so now I’m leaning more towards dogs

10) Do you prefer skirts/dresses or trousers? Leggings and jeans are cool…but I love skirts and dresses. I’m not gonna choose one here.

11) Are you superstitious? Sometimes I get sketched out but not normally

MY QUESTIONS FOR YOU:

1. What’s your OTP and NOTP?

2. What’s one of your habits?

3. What kind of music do you listen to?

4. What TV shows do you watch?

5. Who is your favorite actor/actress?

6. If you could change your name would you? If so, what would you change it so?

7. Honestly, what would you do with $1,000,000?

8. What’s something interesting about yourself?

9. Are you impulsive?

10. What’s your dream house and where would it be?

11. Where would your dream vacation be to?

You’re such a treasure

If you want me piss me off in five seconds flat, disrespect, neglect, or abuse a child in front of me. And I’m not saying that as a self-righteous twenty something who’s never dealt with children. I know they can be difficult and exhausting and make you want to pull your hair out and scream. I know that every parent has that day. So that’s not it. 

But when people use children as a manipulation tactic, or a verbal punching bag, or any kind of punching bag, of treat them like they don’t exist? What? And by reblogging that I wasn’t advocating that parents and caregivers let children run a muck. Children need and actually thrive with boundaries. It’s real science, and not the fake james-potter-is-sexy type I tout on my blog. Children thrive with structure and limits, but they also thrive with attention, respect, and love.

And whole-hearted attention—not mummy’s on her iphone what is it sweetheart, or turning the television off for four minutes to rush through a bedtime story, but like you are worthy of my time and I am invested in this relationship and let me show you that by focusing on you and just you.

And whole-hearted respect—I value you for who you are and you are an excellent little human person and I am interested in your life and who you’re going to become.

And whole-hearted love—as in I love you contingent upon nothing, not because I’m required to or because you’re my child or nephew or any factor, and you do not need to earn my love, and nor can you lose it, like if there is one constant in your life, little malleable person, know in the core of your being that it’s MY LOVE FOR YOU kind of love.

And I think adults forget that. Like we forget what it’s like to be four and not know the world is shit. And we forget what it’s like to be seven and fucking proud as hell because you learned a fantastic joke. And we forget and so we dismiss childhood as invaluable when what’s happening is that these people will be fucking running the world when you’re old. Don’t fuck them up.