I’m struggling to find ways to cope with my hypersexuality while manic. I have an amazing partner that I’ve been with for a lifetime, 17 years. Last year I had a HUGE manic meltdown that almost ended our relationship. I was diagnosed bipolar1 and started medication n therapy. Since then my hypersexuality while manic has done nothing but cause problems in our relationship. I’m trying so hard but he thinks my behavior is sabotaging our relationship. How do I manage both? What advice do you or anyone have for managing toxic or risky behaviors? Is there a way for someone to manage it without just stuffing down and repressing all their sexual wants and urges?
hmm... from what i'm understanding, it sounds like you're reacting a bit strangely as you try coping through your intrusive urges, yes?
to start with, id like to say that's very normal when it comes to recovering. people always say recovery isn't easy, but they don't understand just how difficult it can be when it gets to this point — unintentionally lashing out and or isolating is very valid, and it's not your fault you're like this. im so sorry for how negatively this has been affecting your relationship, hypersexuality is just such a terrible killer.
for helping yourself ground and come back to your senses, i'd recommend practicing mindfulness, not necessarily with anyone at first if that makes it easier. ask yourself, is this really worth losing your partner over? take deep breaths, and realize your own behaviors.
i think the best thing to do for the both of you would be to talk about this, as hard as i know that will be. but it sounds like one end thinks this behavior is harmful, while the other end thinks it's not, and while i'm definitely not good at helping in relationship related problems, i truly think you two just need to talk... you'll never know if things get better if you don't put in the effort to help yourself.
@hypersexuality-vents is unfortunately not so active anymore, but i'm sure you might find an answer or someone to relate to while scrolling through!
i'm so unbelievably proud of you. i understand relationships can just add onto the hard recovery process of hypersexuality, or any other disorder honestly, but it's going to be ok. i love you, and i wish you lots of luck.
