#hagd asks

What am I?? I don’t know who to ask about gender issues and I wanted to be anonymous but your asks don’t allow that so I thought I’d submit instead? Would you be able to post this anonymously?? 
I don’t know what label would suit me best and I like labels so I can ground who I am as a person as I have a lot of issues with personal identity. 
When I was a kid I wanted to be a boy and even tried to run away and change my name but… I was only about 8 and got scared, forgot my shoes and went home to which I was caught and had to blag an excuse so as not to get in trouble.
Currently though sometimes I feel like I’m a woman, and that’s great. I was born a girl. I’ve been asked to be more feminine when I used to live in jeans and I’ve embraced that, I love my skirts and my dresses and my make up. That’s fine. 
But… Sometimes I don’t feel like any gender? I feel like my gender is a void. I don’t know if I’m a woman or a man though I know I’m definitely not a man… But I’m not a woman either?
Sometimes I’m fine being a her or a she but others it makes me feel gross and like it’s not who I am and I’d probably prefer to be a they/them?
So am I gender fluid between being female and agender?? Would I call myself agender presenting feminine? Gender fluid?? Non binary??? 
I’m so confused as to what I am. I’m fortunate enough to have a supportive husband who is happy for me to express my gender with my clothes however I want to now even though it’ll take time for him to adjust which I feel is natural. 
I’m sorry if this is confusing. Trust me I’m just as confused… Gender is super confusing! We're mostly taught that it's one thing and one thing only (I grew up in the 90s of that helps) and then you get to adulthood and whoa there's more than two genders? What is this?! Anyway, I think you could be genderfluid between agender and female. Have you looked into demigenders? Demigirl or Demi-agender might fit as well. If you're not a man and you're not a woman you're non-binary - finding the gender that is right for you however is a bit of a difficult thing for me to do. read lots of tags and lots of blogs and experiences and definitions and you might find yourself. Or just definitions.

Q: My partner came out to me as trans (MtF) sometime ago. They are generally not out to other people. We've only talked about it a few times, but each time they seemed conflicted about whether or not they really want to transition. How can I support them without pressuring them to make a decision? They've asked for my advice in the past and I didn't know what to say or how to help them. A: They should see a therapist, specifically a gender therapist if at all possible. That will help them with their feeling conflicted about transitioning. While I'm sure you're great, you're probably not qualified to do much in way if advice. I am not either. Their doctor is as well as a therapist. They can join Facebook groups for trans women and trans people and that may help as well.

Sourcethe -flux suffix means fluctuate, the -fluid suffix means flows.  (genderfluid, genderflux) 

(posted anonymously)

The difference between bi and gay is “simple”.  Are you sexually attracted to only one gender (in your case girls), or are you sexually attracted to multiple (girls, boys, nonbinaries, etc)?If you do not know - it is okay.  It is okay to not know your label.  I could use the “you are young” cliche, but it is true for older people as well - if you are 30, or 80 or 109, it is okay to not know who you are sexually attracted to.

Any advice for this author?

Invisibility is being invisible (I think that is understood).  What the post means, however, is like asexual people - we appear invisible.  Society doesn’t know much about us.  Aromantic people are also invisible.“Invisibility means you have to find out about your own identity from strangers in small, distant corners of the internet.” ^^ I was not aware agender, asexual, aromantic existed until i started working for have a gay day and started reading more about various LGBT+ identities online - mainly on tumblr.“Invisibility means the very nature of your identity is up for debate.”^^ People like to debate that ace, agender, trans, non-binary, aro, aro-spec, bisexual, pansexual, etc people even exist.