Letting Go of āDue Datesā
by Kira
Itās no surprise that in such a busy, fast paced culture we even have ādue datesā for our babies. However unlike work projects, there is no real deadline for babies- theyāre babies!
There is a lot of conversation around the accuracy of due dates (are ultrasounds more effective? Is 40 weeks actually the length of a ānormalā pregnancy?) but for the most part, ādoctors, midwives, and online due date calculators use Naegeleās rule to figure out an estimated due date (EDD). Naegeleās rule assumes that you had a 28-day menstrual cycle, and that you ovulated exactly on the 14th day of your cycle (Note: some health care providers will adjust your due date for longer or shorter menstrual cycles). To calculate your EDD according to Naegeleās rule, you add 7 days to the first day of your last period, and then count forward 9 months (or count backwards 3 months). This is equal to counting forward 280 days from the date of your last period. (an excerpt from Evidence Based Birth- Due Dates)ā
Even if you know the exact date that you conceived, there is evidence suggesting that the ādue dateā is actually 3-5 days after 40 weeks. As you can tell, there is a lot of room for variation using this method.
Only 5% of babies are born on their due dates. That means that 95% of babies are born before or after their due dates. In fact, the average first time baby is born 5 days after their due date.
The majority of parents that Iāve worked with shift into a state of concern when they pass their due date. And itās with good reason! In our culture, it is incredibly rare to let pregnant people go past 42 weeks. And most people prefer not to be induced if they can avoid it.
So, what do we do about it?
Hereās my proposal:
1) Ā Ā Call it a āguess dateā. Heck, call it a āguess month!ā Or, at the very least, an āestimated due dateā.
2) Ā Ā Emotionally prepare to welcome baby ANYTIME between 37-42 weeks. Have your bags packed by 37 weeks (if youāre birthing in the hospital or birth centre), but donāt expect baby to arrive before 42 weeks!
3) Ā Ā Refer family and friends to the statistics in this post early enough in your pregnancy that they get the idea- babies do not arrive āon timeā. A huge part of the pressure is family and friends. Be proactive and let them know about the MONTH that you may be waiting for baby to make their guest appearance.
http://www.ontariomidwives.ca/images/uploads/client-resources/Postdates-Final.pdf
https://evidencebasedbirth.com/evidence-on-inducing-labor-for-going-past-your-due-date/












