#gettingoverabreakup

Have you just gone through a breakup recently, and you still have a lot of deep, dark, negative feelings? Getting over a breakup is hard to do. Perhaps your feelings go from one extreme to the other; one moment, you love them more than anything, and the next moment you're glad you broke up and hope you never see them again. If so, then you should know that you are not alone. A lot of people have experienced the same thing. Read the full article

After a relationship breakup, everything in the world can seem bleak and depressing. You may be asking yourself, "Why can't I get over a breakup?". The most important thing to remember is that this is a normal reaction. Anytime anything "bad" happens to us, we go through a period of grieving. A relationship breakup is no exception. Why Can't I Get Over a Breakup? When a relationship ends, you have a loss. There's the loss of a person from your life with who you've spent lots of time... Read the full article

If you are going through a break up, watch this video by The Science of Love! Although it has been a while since I went through a break up myself, this video really helped me look at my past relationships in a more positive light. Wanted to share!

After reading the promises that you made to me about never giving up and never wanting to quit. How I would always be yours and you would always be mine. I can't help but wonder if those are your thoughts tonight. My eyes read these words that I first read with my heart thinking and knowing that they were true but now I just read what I thought was from the heart as meaningless words you fed me to keep me here. Although I always hate that I am still hung up on you I know that deep down it is kind of a good thing because if I am still in love with you then I did really want to be with you and it wasn't some joke or lie I told myself that you might have took as a lie or joke. Tonight was another night that I let myself down by imagining myself with you. I let my mind wander to think of where you are, what your mind is on and how you are feeling. I then let my mind wander to the feeling of you being gone forever and that tears me to pieces. When I get a phone call, like I did tonight, I hoped that it was you calling and saying that you needed me but yet again you disappointed me and it was not you. I look at my phone each day hoping for a missed call, a voice mail, anything with your name on it. Each day my hope for us grows smaller but even though my hopes for us getting back together my love for you is remaining. With every guy I look at or talk to they can never compare because they are not you. They don't have that laugh, that smile, that smell, that warm embrace, that you that makes you, you. And I can't stand looking at them because all that they are to me is that I miss of you. Every time I go past or into your home town all I can remember is all of the memories we shared there. While walking through the mall this past week all I saw were the memories that we had walking around that mall for mo reason weekend after weekend, and that last weekend when we had a purpose. The last full day where we ate there and spent time with friends and held each others hands and I knew that we would be together forever. I just didn't know that your forever was shorter than mine. Everyone says its normal to feel this way but I don't think its normal to hate everything that reminds me of you. And the sad thing is, is that I hope and pray every night that you aren't having this much pain that I am because I can barely stand if and I song want you to have that much pain. I still love you and don't know what I will ever do without you, Im still searching for the day that I am okay with you being gone but that day is still quite far away. 

Basically, life is short in the long run, and you have to make the most of your time.  Being unhappy is a waste of this precious time we have on earth.  If being single for indefinite period of time is what you need to be happy, then DO IT!   If you love life and love as much as I do, than you deserve to be happy.  No one, and I mean no one is allowed to make you feel inferior without your consent (yeah, that was an Eleanor Roosevelt paraphrased quote and yeah, she’s the shit).  So while you are figuring out who you are as an individual, reflect on your past relationship and realize the problems.  Instead of becoming angry every time you think of your ex, be thankful that he showed you exactly what you want from a relationship next time around.  Also come to terms with things you did wrong, too, because that will help you in achieving a healthy relationship somewhere down the line.