this could just be me lmao, but DO NOT donate your fem clothes if you feel masc for longer than usual. or vice versa.

keeping a gender journal is something that can be really helpful to actually look back on and see how it changes (and also have proof of fluidity for when you begin to think "hmm actually im just a trans girl. nothing else." no, you probably aren't. you felt completely boy/nonbinary/etc just a month ago, and thats okay.)

basically it can be really hard to embrace that your gender is not static, especially if your gender stays stable for a slightly longer period. it took me so long to stop rotating between "im a girl always" "no, im a boy always" "actually, im nonbinary always" to just admit im genderfluid.

also, make genderfluid content. you don't have to show it to anyone, but sometimes it can really help to make poetry or art or write a story about being fluid and your experience in particular. i have an easy avenue for this since i write fanfiction (haven't published any of it yet lmao) and i just hit my favorite characters with my genderfluid beam and go nuts

follow people who are genderfluid, read genderfluid books, maybe join a genderfluid discord server (there are barely any, so actually maybe make one), try to make genderfluid friends. you are not alone, even though it sometimes feels that way.

if you have plushies or anything similar, make them genderfluid. i have a genderfluid squishmallow who i use she/they pronouns for, and a little husky that switches between he/she. idk it just helps sometimes lol

some of us change gender daily, or multiple times a day. some of us change gender only a couple times a year, or even less. we're all different and that's fine.

tips for presentation:

if you have a day when you can't figure out gender, go neutral clothing-wise

take little things to ease dysphoria if you switch when you're out somewhere (ex. lipgloss, eyeliner, leather bracelet, etc)

if you can, get pronoun pins. seriously, get pronoun pins (or a colored bracelet for subtlety or if you're not out). you can wear multiple at a time, you can switch them whenever you need to. you aren't a burden if your pronouns change. you don't have to stick to they/them to be easy for people.

if you can, get a versatile hairstyle that you can make suit your gender no matter what. if you cant, try to get a hairstyle that makes you the least dysphoric overall.

if you are organized enough, separate your clothes based on gender/what you feel comfy wearing on different days. do not pressure yourself to fit stereotypes. some people can only feel comfortable in skirts when theyre boys, so they only wear skirts on boy days. do what works for you.

it's kinda complicated, but if you can expand your vocal range to sound more fem or masc depending on how you feel, it can help. alternatively, vocal train to make it more androgynous.

keep makeup wipes with you in case you need to take it off part way through being out. basically, make it as easy as possible to be able to change/tweak your presentation if necessary.

this could just be me, but having lots of hoodies in different colors and styles will save your life

sometimes you might have "blender days", which is what i call it when your gender feels like its in a blender in a bad way and you can't tell at all what it is, everything feels wrong, it's changing like every 10 minutes, etc. tbh on these days all i can do is put on sweats and a hoodie and feel dysphoric. listen to music if it helps. do a hobby.

non-clothing items can help a lot. a blue tshirt and jeans can be whatever you want it to be based on what you wear it with. (ex. sneakers/ballet flats, leather bracelet/sparkly necklace, baseball cap/eyeliner)

and lastly: YOU ARE AMAZING. keep being you, keep being incredible, and know that being genderfluid is a gift. be proud to be who you are, have fun, know that you are unique and special and wonderful!! we're ever-changing, and that's awesome. you are precious. i love you.

🩷🤍💜🖤💙

dont wanna link my tumblr, but my name is kiley if you want to attach a name to this!

Okay this is a lot more than I was expecting LMAO /pos

so im debating coming out to my mother as genderfluid. she already knows im bi, and shes cool with it, and ive already come out to my dad as genderfluid, and hes cool with it. of course, im still figuring myself out.

all of my cis friends have given me the “yes, go ahead, you can do it” spiel. one’s actually trying to force me into coming out (hes gonna get my fist come out to his face if he brings it up again though). but my trans bf is trying to advise against it, since im still figuring shit out.

I was scrolling through some other genderfluid blogs trying to do some research and find some posts to validate myself and I came across one made by a (seemingly inactive) blog. The post essentially said that you can’t be genderfluid without having gender dysphoria/wanting to transition your body medically to some degree?

I’m afab and currently use she/they, and though I do have days that my chest is icky, I definitely don’t want to medically transition at all. Can I not be genderfluid since I don’t have dysphoria???

Posting this directly instead of queuing because eww

I’m not sure what blog you read that from, but it’s false! You don’t have to experience dysphoria to be genderfluid—the same way a trans or nonbinary or agender person doesn’t have to experience it to be what they identify as!

In fact, it’s good you experience little to no dysphoria. Dysphoria is very common for most people, and it’s talked about a shit ton, but feeling comfortable in your own skin doesn’t make you a liar for identifying as something other than your AGAB.

Oooh… this one’s a tough one to answer

Everyone’s experience with gender can be vastly different and it’s mainly up to the person to figure it out themselves.

however

a very common thing that might tell you you’re fluid is the way you may feel dysphoric and wish to be the opposite gender some days (weeks, or even months. Gender can become stagnant, including for fluid folks) while feeling comfortable as yourself some time later (or still feeling dysphoric for not being how you picture your agab to be)

of course this also applies to having gender euphoria if you look or feel like a different gender some days and it feels really good!! But then it changes and the other gender still ALSO feels good!

another thing is constantly switching up your pronouns/being unable to decide on ones. However you don’t HAVE to do this. For example, I’m fluid but I ONLY go by he/him, even if my gender changes. Meanwhile, others may change their pronouns daily! Or even hourly!

and I’ll just come upfront and tell you right now…if you have to ask the question “am I genderfluid?” The answer is more than likely yes. This goes for other labels as well, unless you find something that better suits you. I dunno, it’s like the right label finds you before you’re really ready to accept that maybe that’s what you are.

Seriously, I don't know if I do or don't want to do anything like that, is that a common thing other Genderfluid people debate about with themselves?

Also, do you or anyone else have any tips on how to handle dysphoria related to things that arent easily able to be fixed? ( voice, height, ect, but voice and height are my 2 biggest things ) sorry for the longer ask!

yeah I struggle with wanting both all the time this is something very very common for most fluid folks

As for altering height—I genuinely have no idea. Most of it is up to genetics but I’m sure there is some way to do something about it. I did see these like, shoe implants to make you taller? Not sure how well those work though. Also platform heels/heels in general are a good go-to for height.

for voice, I found this video back when I did a little voice training—although be warned, when you at least try to do the deeper voice training, it HURTS your throat/around the area of your vocal chords.

Here’s a video I found for making the voice deeper, not the exact one I was using. She talks a lot so you can skip to 2:30 and not miss much. However it does use the same techniques I used

Here’s another one. Wish I could find the one I used :(